The Effect of Increasing Outside workWritten by David Maddern
The Effect of Increasing Outside workIf your man is pursuing a career path please take note of this. Because, although a breadwinner's intention is to support by bringing money into home, he is nevertheless away from home for extended time and a distance may form between partners. This is especially true if all children are established in school system and a mother can step back mentally and review who she is. Often "growing apart" concept creeps into background then. Many women begin to crave "quality time" with spouse and with children, yet work demands more and more, and relationship suffers. This can not be suppressed and divorce is common at 12 years since marriage, with last few years uncomfortable. Interestingly a woman tends to internally define herself by modes of psychological nurture established in childhood. Usually these are one or two of „h quality time „h gifts „h touch „h nice words „h reducing her task load
| | A Jar Of Sauce Can Make You BiggerWritten by Helaine Iris
A Jar Of Sauce Can Make You Bigger Helaine Iris (c) 2004 "We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are." Max Depree It's funny how seemingly simplest events in life can be doorways into profound moments of self-realization and growth. I had a meltdown this afternoon. Albeit brief, it had all qualities of a full-fledged tantrum. It was no fun. There I was in my kitchen making lasagna for dinner guests I was expecting. All was going well. I was organized, had everything moving smoothly and was thoroughly enjoying chopping and sautéing and tasting bits and pieces of delicious ingredients. In middle of my happy, creative storm phone rang. It was my husband who has been away for first week of a three-week adventure. I was delighted to hear his voice; I was hoping he'd call. We caught up on mundane details of his trip and how I was doing managing alone. Then he began to share some of deeper layers of his inspired musings with regard to our life together. He told me his attention had been on some of rather large life changes we've both been percolating on for a while. My pulse began to quicken as he described from his fresh perspective, and space between us, how he's ready and committed to step into a larger life for him/us. He talked about wanting to move on ideas we've both been flirting with for a while. He asked me if I was willing to join him in pushing envelope of our comfortable and somewhat out grown life. I listened, felt renewal in his spirit and could find agreement and admiration with what he was saying. He was determined to grow and push himself and us into new territory. We completed our conversation on a loving note both aware that there would be a "communication blackout" for next week as he heads into New Mexico desert. I immediately went back to my lasagna project. The next task to be completed was opening jar of sauce. I couldn't get it open for life of me! I hit bottom, ran it under hot water, banged on top, dug out rubber jar opener thingy-- it still wouldn't budge. "Ok", I thought, "I'm smart". I know how to walk away from frustration and then reapproach with a new perspective. I put jar down, walked away and returned a few minutes later and tried again. I still couldn't get that @#@% lid loose.
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