The Defining Moment: The Straw That Stirs The Drink Of Motivational Leadership (Part Two)

Written by Brent Filson

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Summary: Motivation is a critical aspect of leadership. But most leaders fail to realize practical processes to motivate people consistently. Here is a motivational-leadership tool to greatly increase your leadership effectiveness.

The Defining Moment: The Straw That Stirs The Drink Of Motivational Leadership (Part Two) by Brent Filson

In Part One, I describedrepparttar 136429 importance of establishing deep, human connections with people you lead. I said there were three ways to do that, by communicating information, by making sense, and by having your experience become their experiences. By far,repparttar 136430 most important and most effective way, isrepparttar 136431 latter.

Now I'll show you how to make that happen by developing and communicating a defining moment.

Write down three to five of your EXPERIENCES that made a strong impression on you. Describe each in a few sentences or paragraphs. That's it. Do no more. The important thing now is to deliberately walk throughrepparttar 136432 sequence of defining-moment development. It's easy to get off track, but once you takerepparttar 136433 trouble to go throughrepparttar 136434 process, you'll have it for life.

For instance, an experience that defines much of what I do in leadership happened when my father lay on his deathbed. He and I had struggled for years over conflicting views of my career path, but when he got cancer,repparttar 136435 terrible disease led to a healing in our relationship, and forrepparttar 136436 first time in years, we were able to talk with affection and no recriminations. During a long discussion one afternoon a few weeks before he died, I told him that I felt I had run out of opportunities in my life.

His thin hand, which had been so broad until he became ill (He came from a family of hulking carpenters.) closed around mine, and he said, "Brent, how can you say that? Everyone has opportunities allrepparttar 136437 time. Look at me. Even me, here, on this bed — even I have opportunities!"

I didn't think much about what he said until after he died, and then his words kept coming back to me. Sort of breaking open in my mind like psychological time-release capsules and releasing bits of understanding. I came to understand what he really meant. And I took that understanding into my life and work.

Since then, I have never lacked for opportunities — simply because my father had me see that opportunities are never lacking — nor have I allowedrepparttar 136438 leaders I've worked with to lack opportunities.

"Even I have opportunities" is a defining moment, an experience, one that led to profound awareness and purposeful action — not for my sake, but forrepparttar 136439 sake ofrepparttar 136440 leaders I'm consulting with. Forrepparttar 136441 defining moment's purpose is not to illuminate what you can do, but what they can do. Now that you've written down some defining experiences, you can begin to change them into defining moments. The experience isrepparttar 136442 raw material;repparttar 136443 defining moment isrepparttar 136444 instrument, shaped fromrepparttar 136445 raw experience, that enables you to reach intorepparttar 136446 hearts ofrepparttar 136447 people you speak to and motivate them to take action to get results. 1. Select an audience to speak to. It can be one person or many. It can be someone at work, in your family, or in your social circle. This should be an important interaction. You don't simply want to communicate but to have a communion withrepparttar 136448 audience.

Using PMS – The Productivity Management System™ to Discover What You Want in Business and in Life

Written by Heidi Richards, MS

“When I dream big, I seerepparttar possible, I discover potential, and realize that almost anything is within my reach. – Heidi Richards

"The purpose of setting goals is to help us to focus our attention. The mind will not reach toward achievement until it has clear objectives. The magic begins when we set goals. It is then thatrepparttar 136356 switch is turned on,repparttar 136357 current begins to flow, andrepparttar 136358 power to accomplish becomes a reality” – from The Best of Success by Career Press

The word "goal" provokes different emotions in people. Some people refuse to set goals for fear of failure. Some people don’t have a vision; they live day to day never thinking that there may be more to this existence. Having goals gives us direction; they are our life’s compass. Great athletes, entrepreneurs and high achievers use goal setting to accomplish their life’s mission. Having goals helps you focus your attainment of knowledge and organize your resources. Goal setting gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation. Short-term goals are stepping-stones to your long-term goals.

Discover what you want. What do you want out of your relationships, your career your life? One way to discover your purpose, to create a vision for your life, is to make a detailed list of your hopes, dreams and aspirations. Start by answering in detailrepparttar 136359 following questions:

What would you do, if you won a million dollars today?

What makes yourepparttar 136360 happiest, most fulfilled?

What do you think about when you daydream?

What do you talk about most ofrepparttar 136361 time?

If you were granted three wishes, what would they be?

What would you most like to achieve inrepparttar 136362 following areas of your life: career/business, health, family life, spiritually, education, community?

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