The Curse of Success Geniuses

Written by Jason Katzenback

Don't talk to me about how to succeed! I've read success advice and books and articles. They're all…"

"What Do You Think I am Going to Say?”

"They're all good? They're too good!

Why, when I've read just what to do to succeed, I am ready to tellrepparttar President to get out, so that I may showrepparttar 141978 world what real success is."

"Those books inspire me! They wind me up like an alarm clock all set for success. They make me dream BIG dreams-and then in a few days, I wake up and start to forget! "

You see dreaming of success is not enough, people succeed because they do something… they do something it in a big way."

You have probably read that 'do something' ad­vice, but- let me tell you-there's something left out! And, to be honest I don't believe that very successful men actually know just how they succeed.

"They're geniuses, and geniuses can do things without knowing how they do them." Let me explain… I can't playrepparttar 141979 piano, but my wife is a musical genius. She can play any tune she hears. She can play anything I whistle! But she doesn't know HOW she does it, and she can't tell me how she does it, in fact she can not even read music well!"

"I believe that a lot of very successful people are success geniuses, and so, isn't it true that they can succeed without knowing just how they do it?” Think of some especially gifted genius you might know, who was able to do some one thing astoundingly well without knowing how he did it.

Geniuses are rare.

In degree of capacity, they differ fromrepparttar 141980 rest of us, and so, perhaps, eminently successful people - success geniuses - are able to succeed without being conscious of how they do it.

So oftenrepparttar 141981 advice on suc­cess, which we read, comes from these people. But since they are geniuses, perhaps they don't know just what makes them successful any more thanrepparttar 141982 natural born musician knows what makes it possible for him to play any air he hears without having been taught it.

How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

Written by Kim Olver

What arerepparttar things you argue about? Where arerepparttar 141948 disagreements? The small resentments? Where do you have to give in to get along?

Do you argue over money? Are you fighting over sex? Do you have different ideas about how much time you should spend together and apart? Do you squabble over extended family and friends? Is one of you daring and reckless, whilerepparttar 141949 other wants to play things safe? Does one of you want to be right allrepparttar 141950 time? Does one of you want to always be in control? Do you disagree aboutrepparttar 141951 fun activities in your life?

Couples may have conflict over many areas but do you know there is a simple explanation forrepparttar 141952 conflict? When looking for a life partner, it is a good idea to take a close look at your “Need Strength Profile”, based on Dr. William Glasser’s work inrepparttar 141953 area of Choice Theory. This simple assessment will determine where you and your partner are in terms ofrepparttar 141954 five basic needs and help you determine what areas are compatible and what areas should generate discussion and possible compromise and negotiation.

There is a free assessment at onrepparttar 141955 "Free Stuff" page that will provide a rudimentary understanding of where you are with regard torepparttar 141956 five basic human needs of Choice Theory---love & belong, survival, power, freedom and fun. If you are seeking compatibility in a relationship, you and your partner can both take this assessment and then discuss your results based onrepparttar 141957 rest of this article.

The first need is called love & belonging. It isrepparttar 141958 need that determines how much connection you require with others. Generally speaking, relationships work best when you have equivalent strengths ofrepparttar 141959 love & belonging need. This isrepparttar 141960 need that will help you determine as a couple how much time you spend together and how much time is needed apart. Loving sex and romance is another aspect of this need, as are extended family and friends.

The second ofrepparttar 141961 five basic needs is survival. This is so much more than justrepparttar 141962 need to physically survive, although that is part of it. It is alsorepparttar 141963 psychological need to feel safe and secure. Areas of potential conflict around this need involverepparttar 141964 ability to adapt to change, how you spend and save money, preparations one makes for safety, spontaneity, among other things.

The third ofrepparttar 141965 human needs is power, which can be a difficult need to understand because power generally has a negative connotation associated with it. When people hear "power" they often think of one person exerting their power over another person. While this is one way, albeit notrepparttar 141966 best way, to meet one's power need, there are two other ways which are more responsible and palatable.

There are three ways to meet one's need for power---power over others, power with others and power within ourselves. Power over others is not a responsible way to meet one's power need because it interferes withrepparttar 141967 other person getting his or her needs met. There are plenty of people who use power over others but I am advocating forrepparttar 141968 other two ways when seeking compatibility in relationships.

When people have a high need for power, they are born driven to get this need met. They don’t know how to get it met; they just know they must find power. Often, you can observe in small childrenrepparttar 141969 tendency to power over others. Then, hopefully, life teaches childrenrepparttar 141970 other two ways to seek power.

When you look for "power with" others, it means that you are able to work cohesively with a group of people to advance toward a common goal. Many winning sports teams display this "power with" concept, as well as effective work teams and even fully functioning families. "Power with" others can be a very satisfying way of meeting one’s power needs.

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