Most online dating services either offer a free trial or a part of their services for free. However, as time passes and you either want to continue with them or use more of their features such as instant messaging or anonymous email contact, you will have to incur some costs.

Most services are very inexpensive in comparison to what you would have to spend to actually be going out to get to know someone. For example, if a man meets a woman he is attracted to and wants to get to know her better, he will take her out to dinner, drinks or lunch to have some time to sit and talk. By time date is over, he has spent upwards of $30 to pay for himself and his date and all he has gotten is an hour or two of time to communicate and get to know her. Then, it either leads to a second date, or he has to move on to next woman and start over again.

Did you ever feel like your "get-up-and-go" got up and deserted you? Has a stressful situation left you feeling drained and unmotivated to perform simplest tasks? Most of us have experienced times of stress followed by fatigue. The resiliency to work, play, and enjoy life after stressful times requires enough reserve energy to bounce back.

Bruce Lee said that "… stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while bamboo or willow survives by bending with wind." Flexibility is indeed one key to resiliency. Those bamboo trees, in bending one direction, build potential energy to bounce back. However, human minds and bodies are not made of bamboo. We might expend more energy while bending under stress than we have in reserve. We can easily break before we bounce. Depleted energy results in career burn out, depression, and physical illness. Relationships suffer. Periods of intense apathy can steal much of joy in living. Springing back after a stressful time requires a storehouse of reserve energy. How can we generate and conserve enough energy to keep us resilient in times of crisis or stress?

Choose Equanimity

Webster defines equanimity as a habit of mind that is only rarely disturbed under great strain. Equanimity is practice of right disposition, stability, and balance.

Energy reserves can be replenished daily through discipline of balance. Balance provides flexibility, a quality essential for responding in positive ways to events in all of major life areas. How can we begin achieving equanimity and balance?

Do Something Enjoyable Every Day Balance includes taking time daily for relaxation and participation in activities that we enjoy. What do you like to do? Take a sheet of paper or open a text file on your computer now, and write ten things that you love most. Then pick one of those things and do it today.

A wise friend once told me that she kept a happy book. It contained hundreds of things she loved most -- things that made her smile, laugh and daydream. Each day, she made sure she did a few of things in her happy book. This became a great way to replenish energy consumed during daily living.

Maintain Total Wellness

Wellness is an actively sought state of health. It includes spiritual, mental and physical well-being. We can perform better under pressure, recover from setbacks, and minimize resiliency fatigue by strengthening our spirits, minds and bodies.