The Confidence WalkWritten by Sherri L. Dodd
A couple months back, in midst of my chaotic holiday shopping excursion, I decided to take refuge in a pleasant nook of mall. While gathering my thoughts, I was presented with resonance of a confident woman. Her black leather heeled boots well preceded her appearance. Once in view, I would guess she was mid-fifties, dressed in form fitting jeans and a flashy, collared blouse. Her boots allowed a couple extra inches on her 5’2” height. She came and went in a flurry with other holiday shoppers, but her essence lingered on beyond completion of my rest period. I wondered what beliefs in herself did this woman have to carry herself such an assured manner.
Out of curiosity, how do you feel when you see another woman walking confidently past you? I am sure that you have had privy to a similar scene – she is taking long strides with her shoulders back and chin up as she strolls on down way. Sometimes you may think she is attractive (but don’t want to admit it), other times you may think ‘what heck is she so proud of?’ Does it ever irritate you that another woman might think that she is…as my little sister says…”All That”?
Confidence in one’s appearance does not equate to vanity, nor does it equate to being condescending or arrogant. In fact, confidence is something that we, as moms and aging women, should all indulge in on a frequent basis. When we learn to look into ourselves to find what is right with us, we will begin to find same steadfast gait within ourselves. Instead of becoming irritated with those who exude confidence, we will begin to relate to feeling. To reiterate a popular cliché, when our faces are toward sunshine, we will not see shadows. This can be likened to finding happiness within ourselves instead of pointing shameful fingers at unsuspecting passer-bys.
Building confidence can start with achievement. When was last time you made a goal and stuck to it? I would like to believe that near top of your list is ideal of being fit and healthy. Let’s take this one and run with it. When I wrote Mom Looks Great, I wanted moms who participated in fitness program to have option of this same confident walk as well as many other benefits upon completion of Phase III, if not throughout entire process and well into maintenance stage. I wanted reader’s kids to notice that their Mom looks great! I wanted ‘dad’ or ‘significant other’ to acknowledge - “Yeah…Mom does looks great!” So what aside from body does that “looks great” phrase entail?
Looking great is also spirit within you that transcends your superficial flesh. It is your aura, your charisma and your soul. This is why exercise and nutrition play such a vital role in helping you achieve your goal of looking great. When you begin a healthy fitness program you begin to look great even before weight drops and muscles tone. When you live this lifestyle, changes began almost immediately! You will begin to sleep better at night (diminishing dark circles under eyes), you will have more energy in following days (gone are tired grimaces when someone initiates movement) and deep inside your brain, endorphins are throwing a jubilant celebration (therein lies your improved moods). This is also what ‘looks great’ has to offer. The resulting weight loss and muscle tonality will come, but long after you already have a shine to your skin and a feel-good smile on your face. Even in these early stages people will begin to notice.
Women’s Guide: Friends to let go!Written by Kenia Morales
Real friends are hard to find but once you find them they can bring so much joy in to your life. However, not everyone can be that special confidant. Just like other relationships it takes two parties to make it work and I am sure that you must know at least one person that instead of bringing light in to your being consumes your energy and time. Here are some people you should steer clear from:
Liar, Liar- Just like Jim Carey movie where he played part of a lawyer that was accustomed to lying on regular basis; well according to your friend her life is perfect. Her husband is most romantic man in World, her kids are smartest, and she makes more money than any one you know. Oh! Did you hear she has a mansion but, rather live in an apartment. Yeah Right! You can stick around but all lying gets annoying.
Racer – Have you tried taking a course, develop a new interest? Then, you find out you friend is also interested in same area. At first you feel flattered and support her but, later you find out she’s opposing you by hinting how much better she is or talented than you. Little did you know you were competing against her! A little challenge can be motivating but people should be able to relax around their friends.
Copy Cathy – You and your friend are a perfect match have same taste in clothes, food etc. but, you find out it is too much once she starts repeating your own word. I do not know many people that would like to have a clone.
Needy Nina – Sure friendship is all about being there for each other in times of need. However, if you can predict that your friend will need a favor from you AGAIN; then chances are she might be taking advantage of you. We all have our own problems and should take care of them accordingly. It may sound harsh but, true.