* Everything is possible.

31 years ago, I was in first grade. Getting new pencils and notebooks and pencil holders and tiny sharpeners and those rubber erasers were just like Christmas. It certainly was true that:

* Little things make difference.

26 years ago, I learned that school was not all that it has previously been cracked up to be. It was hard and boring and learning things I personally didn't care about. I learned that:

* You don't always know why things happen at that moment.

18 years ago, I graduated high school. It was a windy June evening when my days of childhood wrapped themselves up. That night, I was to be seen as an adult. Not long after that, I got my first ticket, credit card and was supposed to know what I was doing.

* Don't be in such a hurry to grow up.

17 years ago, I had my first part-time job working in bowling alley. I only dropped in to bowl. Afterward, I asked if they were hiring. The owner said yes, I started 4 days later. You know:

* Sometimes, you just gotta ask.

15 years ago, I got my first real job working at newspaper. It is something that I had become interested in during my senior year of high school, and I was good at it. I eventually left for something bigger and better. But no matter what job I've had, I always kept finding ways to make writing a key in it.

* Start with something you enjoy. Everything will be based around it.

14 years ago, I learned that newspaper business, really is a business. Our managing editor was laid off without notice in first of several rounds of cutbacks

* Doing a great job just doesn't cut it any more.

10 years ago, I moved out on my own for first time. Macaroni and cheese, along with bills to pay, writing to do, Nintendo to play. I felt alive and life was dear, but I moved back home, very next year.

* Life looks a lot easier than it is.

Not all you learned about relationships came from your parents; your learning has continued throughout your life. But what you saw your parents do in relationships, how you interpreted what you saw, and how you felt about it, is foundation of your adult relationships.

That's not to say that your parents were wrong or bad parents, or even that they had a bad relationship. The only thing that can be said is if intimate relationships are problematic for you, source is inevitably your foundational learning.

If a great relationship, a great partner, is what you are after, you must see, understand, and deconstruct your foundational learning about relationships. To take apart a foundation of something is a delicate thing. Imagine trying to remove or change foundation of a house while leaving rest of house standing intact. Not an easy task. But in order to have a great relationship, you need to reconstruct your foundational learning while leaving you intact.