The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Are You a Negative Thinker? Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 733 Category: Self-Improvement, Personal Growth
Are You a Negative Thinker? By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Barbara sought my help because of her chronic fatigue. She had been going to different kinds of doctors and trying different nutrition plans for years and nothing was helping her. One of doctors suggested that she try psychotherapy.
In became evident early in our work together than Barbara was deeply addicted to thinking worst. Constant negativity went through her mind about every aspect of her life. She would get out of her car and worry about getting robbed. In social situations, she would tell herself that people didn’t like her. She was always worried about money, even though she was a successful graphic designer. Her husband could never do anything right. There was something wrong with every doctor she saw.
Negative thinking causes much stress in body. I told Barbara to imagine that she was telling these negative thoughts to a child. How would child feel most of time? Barbara could see that this child would, of course, feel anxious and stressed much of time in response to all negativity and catastrophic thinking.
The medical profession has long told us that stress is one of leading causes of illness. Stress sets into motion body’s fight or flight response, pouring cortisol into body and eventually exhausting adrenal glands. Adrenal exhaustion can be one of results of so much negative thinking.
While Barbara could understand possible effect her negative thinking was having on her health, it was extremely challenging for her to give up her negative thinking. Barbara deeply believed that her negative thinking kept her safe from disappointment. She believed that thinking negative thought before bad thing would happen prepared her to deal with it. She didn’t want to be caught off guard. She believed that she could not handle pain of disappointment, so that if she knew about it ahead of time and actually expected it, she wouldn’t feel disappointed.