However there is one success secret that costs nothing. And we can all use it today to get ahead more quickly. I am talking about cultivating exceptional people skills in a way that puts you ahead of crowd, in a way that respects and honors people you deal with in your life.

Ironically when we neglect people skills complex business and social infrastructure of our world can fall over in a moment. What do I mean?

Have you ever walked into store of a major nationwide retailer and walked through multimillion dollar premises only to find nobody to serve you?

Have you ever phoned your bank and got a busy signal or even worse got cut off despite their huge customer service focused advertising campaigns.

How about in your workplace? Have you ever done a fantastic job, stayed late to get it done and felt taken for granted? The corporate slogan about caring for welfare of staff rings hollow after this happens more than once.

On other hand if you learn from most successful individuals and companies you will find one trait in common -- excellent people skills.

Here are three ways to become more successful by developing your people skills:

1 Learn from people who manage to remain cheerful in face of massive challenges and stress.

A good friend of mine was on verge of losing his business last year but you would never have guessed it. He was always smiling and confident things would get better. He somehow managed to still treat his staff well even when he was worried about running out of money.

With close friends and family it is not unusual to think that you ought to take onboard everything you hear. However do not confuse caring with knowing.

Just because someone is concerned for your welfare does not mean that their advice or input has value. For example, I know a lot about peak performance. I do not know much about car maintenance.

If I ever offer you advice on rebuilding a car engine run as fast as you can! My input would have little or no value.

Likewise with friends and family. They may be negative about you, your plans and your opinions simply because they lack knowledge to think positively about situation. Their ignorance causes them to fear for your welfare.

Distinguish between caring and knowledge to offer worthwhile input.

2 Let go of needing their approval:

I often mention this principle because it is so important. As long as you must have permission, approval and acceptance of your peers you are a victim of their limiting beliefs.

You must let go of wanting approval if you are to ever have peace of mind.

The easiest way is to learn The Sedona Method. To get started right now ask yourself -- could I let go of wanting John´s approval? Where John is name of negative person.