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"The 5 Inner Enemies That Will Stop You From Achieving Your Goals"

- by Veronica Lim

(c) Veronica Lim. All Rights Reserved. http://www.daregoals.com

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Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.

We aren't born that way nor do we mean to be that way, but it can often come about because of our past experiences, what someone may have told us, what we've read in papers… and then without realising, we develop these inner enemies. How many of them can you identify with?

(1) The Confused Indecision-maker You will often hear Confused Indecision-Maker complaining about way things are, and how much better it would be if things were different. It's often "someone else's" fault too. But if you stopped them and asked, "What do you want then?" they usually find it hard to give you an answer. They know what they don't want, but they don't know what they do want. As a result, they don't make decisions that will take them closer to what they want, nor do they recognise it when what they want is staring them between eyes.

(2) The Historian There are three aspects to Historian. The first is that historians think that because it hasn't happened in past or that they haven't made it happen in past, that it won't happen in future. The second aspect is that they keep on thinking with same mindset as in past, and so never begin to see things with a new perspective or come up with new ideas. And third is that they are continually bemoaning how wonderful things were in "the good old days" that they fail to notice what's good about today.

Mostly our vision extends no further than our own noses. To add insult to injury, we usually don't follow through on our "Me Orientated" resolutions and goals. In a matter of months, and sometimes even weeks, we've forgotten all about our "new improved" character, which results in feelings of frustration and failure.

Most 'experts' tell us not to elevate our expectations too high. On other hand, perhaps we fail because we don't set out goals high enough.

What if we looked outward instead of inward when making our declarations? Would we then be able to complete a year feeling satisfied rather than contemptuous about ourselves?

I'd like to take a risk and suggest one resolution that might last a year, or, maybe even, a lifetime. A resolution that makes you feel good about yourself whilst simultaneously including others.

It's not my idea so I don't want to take any credit for it. In fact, idea originated from a movie called 'Pay It Forward' directed by Mimi Leder. If there's one video you need to see this year - then this is one.