Here are my thoughts and steps on how to to "design a life" ..instead of been blown about by winds of life (like a paper bag), or currents, like a jelly-fish. Enough similes!
1.Find VISION. Unless you know where you're going, you are unlikely to get there. Any place where you are is a good place to start.
What activities have you most enjoyed in last 10 years?
What is fun? What do you treasure?
What do you most want to be doing in next 10 years?
I'd love to write, help and hopefully even inspire others.
Which of your strengths and weaknesses are a joy to you?
What do people say you are good at?
What is special about you?
List ideally what would you be doing? Living at beach, writing and travelling...and be financially secure, of course!
Ideally what would you want to be? A successful author was my goal.
Ask WHY do you need those things? What are those status symbols for?
Define your vision. Write it down in less than 10 words. Does it involve other people?
What do I most want to be doing? Why?
What do I most care about? Why?
What steps can I take to move me closer to doing what I really want to do with my life?
Find your niche - your unique skills?
Think about WHO will pay you to enjoy yourself. Instead of worrying about being sacked, think who will pay you to have fun?
Where do you want to work? With whom, in what sort of company? Look for a picture of your ideal environment: home, as well as work.
3. PLAN ahead carefully. Doing this reduces false starts and wrong directions. Most people spend more time planning their annual holiday than they do their "blueprint for life".
Put it all down in writing. My advice: "Think big, but start small".
The prominent American psychologist, Carl Rogers said: "The only real security is preparedness to embrace insecurity". Be YOU you most intend to be? Take stock, review your plan and prioritize your life goals.
4. Make COMMITMENT. Stop saying you're going to do it and actually DO IT. Put in work and write out cheques. This involves going past point of no return. Make commitments: to yourself, to your loved ones in terms of time, energy and money. Then stick to it and take full responsibility for outcome.
5. Spell out details of PLAN. Think it all through and concentrate hard. What are you going to do? How are you going to do it, step by step? What needs to be done and in what order of priority? What resources do you have at your disposal? What are your expenditure needs? Reaffirm your commitment through a personal budget. Be flexible in your thinking, as circumstances usually change...and we can't foresee future. And most importantly, THINK BIG.