When a guy gets turned down over and over again (during seduction process) in his relationship with his wife (or girlfriend) he often attempts to make adjustments. You are about to learn 4 deadly mistakes guys make when attempting to correct problem with their “not in mood” female partner.
Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 1
Trying to learn how to be an awesome lover. I’m referring to becoming better in bed. This may shock hell out of you, but I’ll explain. Here is what guy thinks:
The wrong approach: He thinks that if he becomes so good in bed, his wife will want to keep coming back for more.
Here is why thinking is flawed. The guy thinks if he puts on a world class performance she will want it all time. It doesn't matter how good you are in bed if you are a lousy sexual salesmen she will not buy into your offer. There is a such thing as poor salesmanship. A poor salesman couldn't sell hundred dollar bills for 50 cents.
Trust me, I've seen poor salesman in action. And many cases they will talk themselves out of sale. They end up convincing person not to buy. Keep this in mind: SEX is product and SEDUCTION (or word I like to use is SEXUALLY INSPIRE) is process of selling product. I'll give you another example.
I could be thinking about eating a bacon cheeseburger from a certain fast food restaurant. I know it tastes great because I had it before, but I'm not inspired to eat it.
But when I see commercial (which seduces me), I suddenly have a strong urge to have it - and as a result I will hop in my car and drive out there to get it.
So it wouldn't matter too much if they kept trying to make burger better and better and better. So that is mistake that guys make. They try to improve product (i.e sex or burger), but NOT more important selling process. If you have little sexual value it will be hard enough to get her to agree to have sex.
But what you do technically will not matter as much. If a woman can cum from thought a lone, then that must mean mental side of things is very important.
Have you ever been caressing a woman and suddenly she begins to orgasm? I remember one time being alone with a female and things were getting hot and steamy. We still had our clothes on. I began rubbing her all over while kissing her. I stopped kissing her and just focused on rubbing her – in a matter of seconds she begins to orgasm.
If you get a woman really turned on, this can happen. It depends on woman and how your sexual value. My point is it wasn’t fact that she was being rubbed that resulted in her cumming. It was fact that she was being rubbed by someone with sexual value.
So when guys try to learn how to be better in bed, they are not considering most important part – and that is increasing their sexual value.
The right approach: 1 You must increase your sexual value 2 You must focus on selling (seduction) instead of improving product (getting better at sex)
Deadly Wife Seduction Mistake # 2
The wrong approach: Focusing on how you should approach her. Here is why thinking is flawed.
The guy thinks that he has to approach her a certain way and then she will accept him. He is partially right. But fact that he focuses all of his mental energy on figuring out what right approach is instead of working on increasing his sexual value makes him completely wrong.
If you have little sexual value it doesn't matter how you approach her. That's like saying:
What would a 900lb woman have to do to get you in mood?
If she has no sexual to you, then answer is nothing. Imagine if you saw her obsessing over how to approach you for sex. That is actually perfect analogy because guys are more physically turned on and women are more psychologically turned on.