You limit yourself. Yes, it is true. Each day you behave in much same way as you have always done. You act out your habitual ways of dealing with people, and you communicate as well or as badly as you normally do.
Although you know better, you do not apply all that you have learned when it comes to making most of yourself. If this is true for you, then how are you going to improve?
Awareness is key. Until you spot what you are doing you will not know where to make changes to how you talk to people. How can you change what needs to be improved if you do not see it yourself?
There is a very simple way to generate awareness of how you behave with other people. A way to develop perspective that is not clouded by your biased perceptions.
Three Steps to Powerful Communication:
1 Be a neutral observer
Choose a recent conversation you had which did not go as well as you would have liked. Next, pretend for a moment that you are a neutral observer of conversation. In your imagination go back in time to that incident and see yourself talking to that other person. Picture surroundings, hear sounds and feel atmosphere of place.
Then run through entire conversation again, only this time imagine that you are neutral observer. See yourself and other person talking and listening to each other and notice dynamics of conversation. Pay special attention to non verbal reactions.
By doing this you will be gathering a lot of information that will be helpful in noticing what works and what does not work in your communication.