1. Understand physiological process and how it effects you.

It's called affective neuroscience, and you'll find it fascinating. Check it out! Take an EQ course that covers basics ( http://www.susandunn.cc/courses.htm ) so you understand what's going on and how it works within you.

2. Learn your hot buttons and what triggers your temper.

For each of us it's different.

3. Learn what causes stress in your life and eliminate what you can.

Work with your coach to remove obstacles, reframe problems, meet goals and lessen frustration in your life.

4. If it's beyond your control, let go and let God.

5. Develop some healthy outlets for your anger such as whacking weeds, hitting a tennis ball, meditating, going to a support group or practicing yoga.

Desperation Life= Trouble Before You Start!

If you're playing desperation life, then you didn't do something right early on. Being forced to go for big break could almost be a good definition of failure. You're hoping for a last ditch effort to pull your dream out of muck.

Sometimes a last ditch effort is all you need; most of time, you're playing Russian roulette. If big break is your conscious plan then your strategy is sucking wind already.

The steady as she goes planning will increase your odds of success tremendously. You'll find that your planning and strategy will fit game plan very nicely as there will not be nearly as much pressure on you.

Success Begets Success!

Planning for success of a project is much better handled when you are planning your strategy in bits and pieces. Small steps along way will make huge strides. It's like question, "how do you eat an elephant?" One bite at a time.

Far too often, we try to take giant steps toward goal line to speed up process. And, then in process, we end up farther behind because faster we go behinder we get.

Big breaks can just not be planned or forced. They just happen. Big breaks come to everyone at some time or another. If you think you've never had a big break, that's not true. You might have not recognized it, but they do come around to everyone at times, sometimes very camouflaged but, there nonetheless.

Throwing Caution To The Winds!

The guy waiting on big break will bet whole farm on his idea. He is so sure that it will succeed that sky is limit as to what he will sacrifice to have it. As stated, these ideas work sometimes, but it's exception rather than rule.

The pursuit of big break is not wrong in and of itself. It's just approach to big break that causes them to fail so often. We put just one strategy, plan, technique, or method into play and that's all we got. If that one method doesn't work, we're up dirty creek without a paddle.

By same token, if we put together a bits and pieces plan to approach this situation, then we're really not depending on big break. We're using techniques that will increase our odds of success.

Too Tired To Sleep!

The big break then often shows up and right out of blue presents us with a nice trophy. But most frustrating part is when we try to force it, gamble for it, or spend every waking hour in a gut wrenching frame of mind hoping for success from it.