Ten Ways To Get A Life You Can Live With

Written by Suzann Foerster

When isrepparttar last time you stopped and asked yourself if you're really livingrepparttar 131122 life you want? We live in busy times. Overwhelm and exhaustion is becomingrepparttar 131123 norm. Why? Because we spend our time accomplishingrepparttar 131124 tasks ofrepparttar 131125 day,not mindful ofrepparttar 131126 life we are building.

So what can you do? Take action! These ten steps will put you onrepparttar 131127 path to taking control of and buildingrepparttar 131128 life you desire.

Top Ten Ways to Get a Life You Can Live With

1. Say NO!

Don’t let 'YES' come flying out of your mouth atrepparttar 131129 first sign of a request. Notice how often you do things you’d rather not, and start making decisions based on what you want to do. Remember that you always have a choice.

2. Eliminate The 'Energy Drainers' From Your Life

Make a list of allrepparttar 131130 things you put up with about situations, other people or yourself. Ask yourself what purpose does this energy drainer serve in my life and what arerepparttar 131131 benefits of eliminating it? Commit to takerepparttar 131132 action necessary to eliminaterepparttar 131133 drainers.

3. Set Priorities That Reflect Your True Values

Does what you value match how you allocate your time? There is more to do inrepparttar 131134 day then time to do it- decide what’s most important, focus on what you value, and say no to everything else.

4. Put Yourself First

Putting your self first is not selfish; it’s actuallyrepparttar 131135 best thing you can do forrepparttar 131136 people around you. Once your needs are met and you are healthy and well taken care of, you will have more to offer everyone else.

5. Establish Boundaries and Set High Standards

Boundaries protect your time, space and energy and arerepparttar 131137 guidelines to how others may treat you. Standards arerepparttar 131138 principles by which you choose to live your life and clear, high standards allow you to easily make decisions that align with your values.

Women in Transition From Post Feminism to Past Femininity - Part I

Written by Sam Vaknin

"[In]...repparttar brothels off Wenceslas Square, in central Prague, [where] sexual intercourse can be bought for USD 25 - about halfrepparttar 131120 price charged at a German brothel... Slav women have supplanted Filipinos and Thais asrepparttar 131121 most common foreign offering in [Europe]." (The Economist, August 2000, p.18)

"I'm also wary ofrepparttar 131122 revolutionary ambition of some feminist texts, with their ideas about changing present conditions, having seen enough attempted utopia's for one lifetime" (Petr Príhoda, The New Presence, 2000, p. 35).

"As probably every country has its Amazons, if we go far back in Czech mythology, to a collection of Old Czech Legends, we come across a very interesting legend aboutrepparttar 131123 Dévín castle (which literally means 'The Girls' Castle'). It describes a bloody story about a rebellion of women, who started a vengeful war against men. Asrepparttar 131124 story goes, they were not only capable warriors, they had no mercy and would not hesitate to kill their fathers and brothers. Underrepparttar 131125 leadership of mighty Vlasta,repparttar 131126 "girls" lived in their castle, "Dévín", where they underwent a severe military training. They ledrepparttar 131127 war very successfully, and one day Vlasta came up with an shrewd plan, how to take hostage a famous nobleman, Ctirad. She choserepparttar 131128 lovely Sárka fromrepparttar 131129 body (sic!) of her troops and had her tied up to a tree by a road with a horn and a jar of a mead out of her reach, but in her sight. In this state, Sárka was waiting for Ctirad to find her. When he actually really appeared and saw her, she told him a sad story of howrepparttar 131130 women from Dévín punished her for not following their ideology by tying her torepparttar 131131 tree, mockingly putting a jar and a horn (so that she would be always reminded that she is thirsty and helpless) near by. Ctirad, enchanted byrepparttar 131132 beautiful woman, believedrepparttar 131133 lure and untied her, and when she handed himrepparttar 131134 mead, he willingly drunk it. When he was drunk already, she let him blowrepparttar 131135 horn, which was a signal forrepparttar 131136 Dévín warriors to capture him. He was then tortured in many horrible ways, atrepparttar 131137 end of which, his body was woven into a wooden wheel and displayed. This event mobilizedrepparttar 131138 army, which soon afterwards destroyed Dévín. (Very significantly, this legend isrepparttar 131139 only account of radical feminism in Czech Lands.)" ("The Vissicitudes of Czech Feminism" by Petra Hanáková)

"We myself...and many others are not in search of global sisterhood at all, and it is only when we give up expecting it that we can get anywhere. It is each other's very 'otherness ' that motivates us, andrepparttar 131140 things we find in common take on greater meaning withinrepparttar 131141 context of otherness. There is so much to learn by comparingrepparttar 131142 ways in which we are different, and whichrepparttar 131143 same elements of women's experience are global, and which aren't, and wondering why, and what it means" (Jirina Siklová)

"It is difficult to carry three watermelons under one arm." (Proverb attributed to Bulgarian women)

"The high level of unemployment among women, segregation inrepparttar 131144 labour market,repparttar 131145 increasing salary gap between women and men,repparttar 131146 lack of women present atrepparttar 131147 decision making level, increasing violence against women,repparttar 131148 high levels of maternal and infant mortality,repparttar 131149 total absence of a contraceptive industry in Russia,repparttar 131150 insufficiency of child welfare benefits,repparttar 131151 lack of adequate resources to fund current state programs - this is only part ofrepparttar 131152 long list of women's rights violations." (Elena Kotchkina, Moscow Centre for Gender Studies, "Report onrepparttar 131153 Legal Status of Women in Russia")

Communism was men's nightmare and women's dream, or sorepparttar 131154 left wing version goes. In reality it was a gender-neutral hell. Women under communism were, indeed, encouraged to participate inrepparttar 131155 labour force. An array of conveniences facilitated their participation: day care centres, kindergarten, daylong schools, abortion clinics. They had their quota in parliament. They climbed torepparttar 131156 top of some professions (though there was a list of women-free occupations, more than 90 is Poland). But this - as most other things in communism - was a mere simulacrum.

Reality was much drearier. Women, however mettlesome, groaned underrepparttar 131157 "triple burden" - work, marital expectations cum childrearing chores and party activism. They succumbed torepparttar 131158 lure and demands ofrepparttar 131159 (stressful and boastful) image ofrepparttar 131160 communist "super-woman". This martyrdom - now threatened byrepparttar 131161 dual Western imports, capitalism and feminism - served as a fountain of self-esteem and a source of self-worth in otherwise gloomy circumstances.

Yet,repparttar 131162 communist inspired workplace revolution was not complemented by a domestic one. Women's traditional roles - so succinctly summarized by Bismarck with Prussian geniality as "kitchen, children, church" - survivedrepparttar 131163 modernizing onslaught of scientific Marxism. It is true that power shifted withinrepparttar 131164 family unit ("The woman isrepparttar 131165 neck that movesrepparttar 131166 head, her husband"). Butrepparttar 131167 "underslippers" (as Czech men disparagingly self-labeled) still hadrepparttar 131168 upper hand. In short, women were now subjected to onerous double patriarchy, both private and public (the latter propagated byrepparttar 131169 party andrepparttar 131170 state). It is not that they did not valuerepparttar 131171 independence, status, social interaction and support networks that their jobs afforded them. But they resentedrepparttar 131172 lack of choice (employment was obligatory) andrepparttar 131173 parasitic rule of their often useless husbands. Many of them were an integral and important part of national and social movements throughoutrepparttar 131174 region. Yet, with victory secured and goals achieved, they were invariably shunned and marginalized. As a result, they felt exploited and abused. Small wonder women voted overwhelmingly for right wing parties post communism.

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