I think everyone can benefit from having a coach -- coaching can contribute that much to your life. Which is why you may be interested in seeing what some of my clients have said about value they received from coaching.

Here is a list of top ten benefits my clients say they have derived from having a relationship coach:

1. "I finally met my match." Clients repeatedly credit having a relationship coach for their ability to finally meet their match, a partner unlike any other they have had. In this relationship -- in addition to attraction -- there is true compatibility in values, interests, and desire for personal growth.

2. "I regained hope." Thanks to coaching, clients regained hope in love, regained hope in meeting right partner, regained hope in getting married, perhaps even having children. They understand they can be loved and that there is a right partner for them.

3. "I never have to repeat that horrible pattern again." Relationship coaching has helped people free themselves from unhealthy relationship patterns. These are kinds of patterns where you end up with same partner, only with a different face, over and over again.

4. "I learned how to read people." Coaching has helped clients learn to understand their own and others' motivations. It helped them learn how to clearly see people for who they are.

5. "I finally know exactly how to date." Clients credit relationship coaching for their newfound clarity about what to do and not to do when dating. They no longer have to worry about whether they are doing right thing. They can now relax and be themselves.

Personal growth comes when we push through discomfort. Some say life begins at end of our comfort zone. Yet think of time and energy we spend keeping our loved ones and ourselves comfortable. I know I often expend my energy to stay in my comfort zone. At home and work I resist change. Eating same foods, going to same restaurants, using same services and businesses, and associating with same people, all these keep us feeling comfortable.

But with hindsight I recognize that major leaps of growth in my life always followed periods of discomfort. Familiar surroundings and situations allow us to live in a sort of autopilot mode. Do you take same route to work every day? Have you ever realized half way there that you don’t recall getting where you are? You just navigated a familiar route with little conscious effort.