Tantrums aren't personal. Toddlers and pre-school children don't throw tantrums because they want to be naughty. They don't scream and yell because they want to hurt you. Children throw tantrums because they work. It is your job to make tantrums fail. "Can I have a lollipop?"

This sentence has power to invoke a racing heart and sweating palms in many parents.

The answer is no. The child raises her voice. The answer is still no. The child drops to floor. The answer turns into a discussion and child's voice increases in volume. The tears flow, shrieks begin and, after a few parental self-conscious glances at near by shoppers … answer becomes yes.

Sound familiar?

What makes child in next aisle accept 'no' with a shrug of shoulders or a nod? Why is your child one who throw tantrums?

There is no easy answer to this question, but there are some patterns of thinking and practical methods that you can use to break cycle.

It is a simple, yet powerful fact. A child's behavior can be modified. Rewarding a behavior will increase occurrence of that behavior. Ignoring it will decrease and often eliminate behavior.

A child who throws tantrums gets this message: If I yell loud enough and long enough, I'll get what I want.

The message you want them to get is: It doesn't matter how long or hard I yell, I'm not going to get what I want.

The tantrums may be just developing. They may have been an unhappy part of family life for months or even years. Whatever situation, if they're still happening, they're working.

So, how do you start?

* Commit yourself. When you decide to eliminate tantrums from your life, you are not fighting your child. You are in a battle for good of your child. You will create a more peaceful home environment and closer relationships within your family. You will also teach your child self-discipline. This is a vital skill when dealing with society. Teachers, bosses and most friends will not crumble under weight of your child's demands.

Tantrums won't disappear immediately. If your child is just beginning to learn components of a truly inspired tantrum, you may not have far to go. A few unwavering sessions may be all that is needed. If, however, your child has been honing his tantrum technique for months or even years, success may take a little longer. Even so, with consistency and perseverance, it will work.

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2. Decide if you prefer popular names or unique names - list of baby girls names below are most popular names in USA since year 2000. If you choose a unique name, be careful. Constantly having her name mispelled or mispronounced can be frustrating for her and everyone else.

3. Practice saying baby names for girls aloud - how do they sound? Say entire name - first, middle and last. Do they rhyme? If your last name is complicated, a simpler first name may work best. If your last name is simple, try simple first names and try first names that are more complicated.

4. Do names for baby girls initials you are considering form any kind of word? If a word is formed, is it OK? For example, you will not want to create a name combination that results in initials such as BAD, NOT, WUS, FAT and so on.