Family: Taking Your Kids Perspective

Taking Your Kids Perspective

Written by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC

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critical eye of my father seemed to follow me around wherever I went." (Arthur C. Clarke)

It's quite easy for most fathers to look at their kids with a critical eye.

And why not? There's a lot riding on repparttar 111266 outcome of your kids' development. There's repparttar 111267 nagging worry that you're not doing your job well enough and that your child will develop "problems." There's also repparttar 111268 fear of being judged as an incompetent or uninvolved father by others. And there is repparttar 111269 relentless presence of your children, making mistakes by repparttar 111270 truckload while you watch.

They do make mistakes. Lots of them.

And you have a number of choices about how you respond to those mistakes and how critical you are of your kids. Let's consider some different ways of looking at this issue to see if we can get some perspective:

A Different Angle

If you're a father who's really honest with yourself, you'll acknowledge that much of repparttar 111271 judgement and criticism that you have towards your kids is really your own critical judgement about yourself. It's usually easier to be critical of your kids than to turn repparttar 111272 spotlight on yourself, isn't it? If you're not careful as a father, you may run repparttar 111273 risk of "teaching" your kids low self-esteem through your criticism and judgement of them.

Doesn't seem fair, does it?

Fathers who see their kids as capable and whole, on repparttar 111274 other hand, will find far fewer opportunities to be critical of their kids.

There are other reasons why you should be more understanding with your kids. One reason is to consider what it's really like to be a child. For instance, can you imagine repparttar 111275 formidable combination of having a brain that's not yet able to exhibit emotional control and living in a house where you're constantly told what to do by your parents?

Think about it for a minute. How many times do our kids get told what to do each day? How do you handle getting told what to do all repparttar 111276 time? It's a wonder that kids respond as well as they do.

How to organise your digital and traditional photographs in a single system

Written by Kesh Morjaria

Digital photography promises much. Store your photographs on your computer, print them when you want, email them to friends and family – share them to your heart’s content. Couldn’t be easier, could it? So how come that for most of us storing and sharing our photographs is a bit of a nightmare? The ease of using a digital camera is its very undoing. It’s easy to take some shots and then ‘work on them later’. The trouble is that ‘later’ doesn’t happen often enough and we build up a huge backlog of images that we have to sort and process. That’s where things start to get untidy. Very soon you won’t know what you’ve printed or you won’t be able to find repparttar

original file of that cute shot that your wife wants a copy of. So what’s repparttar 111265

answer? As repparttar 111266

Greek philosopher Hesiod put it nearly 3,000 years ago, “It is best to do things systematically and disorder is our worst enemy.” You need to plan a system for processing your photographs and be systematic in everything you do You probably remember that after repparttar 111267

thrill of your first digital camera, you began to realize some of its limitations. Without a computer or other digital device, it’s hard to share them with granny or repparttar 111268

cousins back home. You realize that you have to have traditional prints to pass around and share. So repparttar 111269

planning system you adopt must cater for both digital and physical prints – you need a single system that organizes both and ensures your precious memories are stored forever. Here’s a six point plan to establishing your own system. 1. Decide how you want to organise your photographs Without a system, you’ll just get a list of meaningless file names. The longer this goes on, repparttar 111270

harder it will be for you to find repparttar 111271

photos that you want. You’ve got to have a system – a way of organising – one that suits you. I choose to organise my photos by event – but you could do it by date, by family member or by whatever is meaningful to you. Under ‘My Pictures’ on my hard drive, I have four sub-folders – Family, Business, Holidays and ‘The Best’. The first three are self-explanatory; ‘The Best’ is where I keep images of which I’m particularly proud.

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