Taking A Stand Can Be Scary

Written by Lisa M. Hendey

Taking a Stand Can Be Scary Book Review –Lenny Loses His Lunch by Dan Taylor and Damon J. Taylor Reviewed by Lisa M. Hendey

“If all of your friends were going to jump off a cliff (or insert your own preferred outrageously dangerous behavior here), would you follow them?”

What parent hasn’t used this line at least once, or had it used on them? We all know aboutrepparttar perils of peer pressure and want to guard our children against them. We also recognize that this can be one of parenting’s most difficult challenges.

In their new book, Lenny Loses His Lunch (Kregel Kidzone, May 2005, hardcover, 32 pages) authors Dan Taylor and Damon J. Taylor give parents of children ages five and up a fun way to discussrepparttar 149835 importance of taking a stand when faced with negative peer pressure. This newest tale inrepparttar 149836 “God Can Use Me” series is a fun retelling ofrepparttar 149837 biblical account of Daniel inrepparttar 149838 lion’s den.

Lenny is a lion, but not a very brave one. He tends to be a follower, choosing to participate inrepparttar 149839 activitiesrepparttar 149840 other lions pursue, even though they go against his own tastes and conscience. All too often, he crumbles underrepparttar 149841 peer pressure ofrepparttar 149842 other lions and makesrepparttar 149843 wrong choice.

Growing Good People

Written by Dr. Randy Wysong

At age seven months inrepparttar womb, humans begin language coordination in response to what they hear throughrepparttar 149763 mother’s belly wall. Some 52 muscles learn to respond torepparttar 149764 various phonemes (a basic language sound like 'b' in boy and 'm' in man) ofrepparttar 149765 language surrounding that belly. There are also studies showing thatrepparttar 149766 emotional state ofrepparttar 149767 parent imprints as do things like music and other environmental conditions. Nutrition, drug use and pollution spill right through directly torepparttar 149768 fetus viarepparttar 149769 placenta and umbilical cord. Parenting begins way beforerepparttar 149770 bassinet.

At eighteen months,repparttar 149771 child has a brain 1/3repparttar 149772 size of an adult butrepparttar 149773 same number of neural connections. These connections are called synapses and relay information – outgoing fromrepparttar 149774 nerve cell through axons, ingoing by way of dendrites. It isrepparttar 149775 number of connections of nerve cells that relates to intelligence, notrepparttar 149776 number of neurons.

Asrepparttar 149777 brain grows, by age 6 we have about five timesrepparttar 149778 neural connections we do as adults. These trillions upon trillions of connections are there waiting to be imprinted byrepparttar 149779 environment, parents and society. This is probablyrepparttar 149780 reason, some 2000 years ago,repparttar 149781 church startedrepparttar 149782 sacraments at ages 6 or 7. (It is remarkable how so many 'new' scientific discoveries were anticipated byrepparttar 149783 intuitive traditions of, what we believe to be, unsophisticated minds ofrepparttar 149784 past.) Beginning at about age 12,repparttar 149785 fatty myelin sheath covering connecting neuronal tendrils not used, are literally dissolved, absorbed intorepparttar 149786 cerebrospinal fluid. Thus 80% ofrepparttar 149787 neural brain mass present at age 6 is gone by age 14 as a result of disuse. Further belittling isrepparttar 149788 fact that ofrepparttar 149789 remaining 20% ofrepparttar 149790 brain, we only use 5%. That means, of our full potential, we only use about 1%! (For evolutionary materialists out there, please explain to me how something as complex as a brain – infinitely more complex than anything humans have ever invented – developed so that 80% of it could dissolve and 95% of what remains go unused.) This 'devolution' ofrepparttar 149791 brain applies torepparttar 149792 neocortex, that big part ofrepparttar 149793 brain with allrepparttar 149794 folds and grooves that humans are so proud of because that's where all our smarts (are supposed to) come from. The more 'primitive' parts ofrepparttar 149795 brain,repparttar 149796 'reptilian' brainstem and limbic systems responsible for stimulus-response sorts of actions and emotion-cognition, remain intact and do not experience this loss. In other words, our ability for 'fight-flight' (running from predators), self-awareness (me, I, look at me), sex (fun stuff and children hatching), eating (wouldn't want to miss that) and road rage (essential in modern living) are never at risk, just our ability to be intelligent about all that base reptilian stuff is. Nothing new here, right? Is it not clear which parts ofrepparttar 149797 human brain are in full function today? Just watch a little television, listen to 'with it' music, go to some movies and pick up some ofrepparttar 149798 tabloids atrepparttar 149799 grocery counter and you'll seerepparttar 149800 human brain stem has suffered no melt-down. But that 3-pound blob on top of it,repparttar 149801 seat of intelligence, is evidently just filling up space.

What is primarily responsible for making and holding neural connections is not what we can beat into our kids with rules, instructions and performance pressures, but what they experience around them. At least 95% ofrepparttar 149802 imprinting a child receives, neitherrepparttar 149803 child norrepparttar 149804 parents are aware of. Who we are emotionally, ethically and intellectually at our core in our day-to-day routines as parents – not what we pretend or preach – is picked up byrepparttar 149805 child as its most important lessons and is then 'neural connected.' So telling a child to be something we are not doesn't work. If we want better children, then we must be better people. This also speaks torepparttar 149806 importance of a loving and nurturing family nest. We learn love, in large part, by experiencing it. The erosion ofrepparttar 149807 family in our libertine society thrustsrepparttar 149808 child into a peer group for imprinting. This begins with technological births in hospital wards, then continues with isolating infants in their own bedrooms, pseudofood in bottles with nipples, television, day-care, broken homes and on to public schooling…you know,repparttar 149809 'modern' way to rear kids. The premature unfolding of development is accelerated through exposure to adult themes pressing in from everywhere in our society. Menstruation is beginning in 8-year-old girls (partlyrepparttar 149810 result of hormone-type pollutants in food), there is an outbreak of pregnancies in 9-year-olds, and violent sex crimes among children underrepparttar 149811 age of 10 are becoming common. Children are being thrust into full operational adult thinking way before they are capable of handling it properly. That is why some 70% of teenagers are functionally illiterate: they may be able to learn, but cannot grant meaning. They have not been properly imprinted, don't have sufficient life experience for context and don't haverepparttar 149812 neural connections.

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