Written by Rhoberta Shaler

+++ In these days of do more, be more, have more, it may be wise to get offrepparttar beaten track and reflect on what is best for you inrepparttar 101894 workplace. What fits your lifestyle? What fits your integrity? What captures your interest? What warms your heart?

+++ I once read a story about a young lawyer who was joining a prestigious firm. She was spending a quiet evening with her grandmother and she told her that she was going to do all that she could to advance in her new organization. She would take a night school course to become an expert in her specialty, and join community organizations to bring in business. She was determined to do everything and 'learn it all'. To her mind,repparttar 101895 picture she was painting was one ofrepparttar 101896 perfect employee. Doing all those things would win her recognition, acceptance and an elevated career path.

+++ The expected approval and enthusiasm from her grandmother was not forthcoming. Smiling at her well-meaning granddaughter, she said: "Be good at whatever you do and do only what you are willing to do well." This startledrepparttar 101897 young lawyer and caused her a great deal of deep thought. After a few nights of poor sleep, she embraced her grandmother's wisdom. Now she isrepparttar 101898 esteemed senior partner in her firm.


Written by Rhoberta Shaler

"Thank you." So good to hear. So simple to say. So, why are so many folks longing to hear it?

There is little that goes further towards improving relationships than a genuine 'Thank you." You know that. Why, then, do so many folks have difficulty with it?

Are we moving too quickly to notice what others do for us? Do we just expect so much that we fail to acknowledgerepparttar little things? Is there some small part of us that refuses to give what we're not getting?

You have probably heard "It's part of your/his/her job. It's your responsibility. " Sure, it may be. Does that mean that it does not deserve acknowledgment? You can bet it would be acknowledged if it was not done!

At home, we often take each other for granted. We 'expect'. We say things like, "If you really loved me, you would _______." Those are expectations delivered in a bartering mode. Where isrepparttar 101893 appreciation for what they do? Do you expect thatrepparttar 101894 garbage will go out orrepparttar 101895 dishes will be put away? Why? Because it's their job? How about saying 'Thank you'? Everyone likes recognition forrepparttar 101896 things they do. It's a very easy habit to acquire.

Ever lived with teenagers? The easiest way to engage them is to catch them doing something right. That means saying 'Thank you' when they do it, too. If you think this is too easy, try it for a month. Tell them what you see that you like, what you like about what they are doing/wearing hinking. Forget about adding anything about what you don't like. You'll seerepparttar 101897 relationship change positively. Still sound too easy? Try it!

Simply look and you'll find many things each day worthy of acknowledgment. Stop and appreciate what IS being done for you...and, say so.

William James,repparttar 101898 great American psychologist, said, "The deepest principle in human nature isrepparttar 101899 craving to be appreciated." Is there a part of you that longs to be seen, recognized and acknowledged? Every person feels better when they are appreciated.

Let's not be too busy, or too important, to stop, see, and acknowledgerepparttar 101900 contributions of others. And, once is not enough. Each timerepparttar 101901 garbage is taken out orrepparttar 101902 report is handed in, each time they bring you coffee or extend themselves on your behalf, say 'Thank you'.

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