THE RIGHT TO MENDWritten by Arleen M. Kaptur
Whenever you drop a glass or a plate, it shatters into pieces. There they lie, all jagged and in different shapes and sizes. There are even some pieces that are so small that they could never be glued back into place and can only be swept up and thrown away. When we encounter a great loss of someone we care about, or an unfortunate event in our lives, our heart and soul shatter into pieces. There they lie, right there in front of us. The pieces are there - just not all together. How do we get back to way things were or how do we regain past so that we can enjoy it yet another day? You can’t bring back past, nor can you set things back way they were. The important thing to remember is that all pieces are there. We need to pick them up and glue them together. It is because all pieces are there that we can look forward and that our lives will continue. The past is just that - past. If we focus on future, we miss joys and opportunities of today. Today is freedom to be and to heal. Refusing to believe in concept of impossible is glue that we use to mend and to fix what shatters in our daily lives. Memories are a joy, and a comfort. If they are good memories, then we are better for having experienced them. If they are far from perfect, they opened our minds and hearts to reality that life is not perfect, but it is there for us to learn from, and move ahead. Also, you must let go of things you cannot control. Holding on to reins that are not yours will never give you peace and serenity that you have a right to. You can only fix what you can, and believe that others will do same in their own time and way. When your day is less than perfect, or some tragic event shatters your world, take time to give it some thought. Actions are good and necessary but if you take time to examine situation, then right actions will follow. Rushing into anything because of hurt feelings, grief, or heartache is like crushing a flower because tomorrow it may fade. The possibility exists that tomorrow may be a stellar day for this flower and bees and birds may partake of its nectar and pollen they carry is promise of a tomorrow.
| | What's In Your Closet?Written by Arleen M. Kaptur
Skeletons in closet - we all have them and many of us desperately try to push them further into dark realms of some tiny room set aside for storage and unused items that are no longer necessary, or that we are not ready to throw away. There they hang - ready to jump out at any unsuspicious person who opens door and dares to peek in. Hanging around is what they do best, but really, they have no other purpose. You have to feel sorry for them. They are lonely, unwanted, and very unpopular. There isn’t a person in entire universe that doesn’t have a skeleton or two that they wish would just go away. These collections of loose bones just stay there - we know they’re there but we don’t want anyone else to know. So, what do you do with these skeletons? They take up precious room and they are of no use. You certainly can’t use them as a decorative accent in your life because they are a reminder of some previous error, omission, or just downright mistake. You are not proud of them, but you just can’t bear to dispose of them either. The best thing to do for both you and skeletons are to take them out of closet, set them in a chair right next to you and face each other. When you can do that, begin to dismantle them bone by bone and throw them away. You will then be on road to feeling better about yourself and world around you. Skeletons will never be a part of today or future. They are definitely relegated to be “the past.” They have no worthwhile function except to get heavier and heavier with each passing day. These “bags of bones” will never get any better looking, and they surely will never make you proud. Until you can haul them out of those closets, benefit from experience and lessons they did help you learn, dispose of them as quickly as you can. Don’t look back, and by all means, don’t feel sorry for them as they go to refuse pile to be carted away forever. They are not a part of you as you are today. They were created by a today that turned into a yesterday. The bridge to tomorrow will never be available to them but you can most assuredly cross it whenever you please.
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