I was stuck in a self-defeating cycle! I felt out-of-control with food! I was either overeating or dieting. In either mode, I felt I was never good enough. I had willpower and stick-to-itiveness in many other areas in my life. So why couldn’t I apply that same resolve to my eating habits?I wasted so much time, energy, and money. I was obsessed with my weight. Living like that was miserable. Today, I understand that weight was not
real problem. It was actually a symptom. The real problem was that I was an “emotional eater”.
Emotional Eaters use food to manage feelings. We use food to self-soothe. People who have struggled with it, and
professionals who treat it, call it by many different names; compulsive overeating, emotional eating, and food addiction. No matter what it’s called, people USE food because food works!
1.Food works as a tension reliever Both eating food and thinking about food work as distractions from uncomfortable feelings. Being food- focused takes
edge off any feeling that a person would rather not feel or tolerate (boredom, stress, anxiety, anger, loneliness, etc.).
For example…You’re feeling bored. Suddenly you find yourself thinking about
ice cream in
freezer. As soon as you start to think about
ice cream, you are no longer focused on feeling bored.
Food and food thoughts can be used in reaction to and as a defense against any intense feeling or stressful life situation. The use of food to manage mood becomes a self-reinforcing habit. (Today, scientists are also focused on
biology & brain chemistry of overeating. There may also be many physiological reason why we keep turning to food even when it feels self-defeating to do so?)
2.Emotional Eating happens on a continuum Emotional eating is normal. We all celebrate with food. When something sad occurs, friends and neighbors arrive with cakes and casseroles. It’s only when emotional eating begins to have impact on one’s emotional and/or physical well-being, and it’s used as a person’s primary strategy for mood regulation, that it becomes a problem. When eating becomes a primary coping strategy, it greatly impacts a person’s quality of life. At
most extreme point on
emotional eating continuum, there may be a diagnosable eating disorder present –such as bulimia or binge eating disorder-and often, clinical depression as well.