Surviving a Long Distance Relationship

Written by Alina Ruigrok -

Challenging and difficult, though they may not be what we want to hear, arerepparttar words that best describe long distance relationships. Keep in mind however, thatrepparttar 101861 words are challenging and difficult, not impossible. Many people choose to give a long distance relationship a try, withrepparttar 101862 constant curiosity if it wasrepparttar 101863 right decision to make and if it even stands a chance. The truth is, a long distance relationship has just as much a chance of succeeding as any other relationship!

Long Distance Relationships sharerepparttar 101864 same facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest in each otherís lives, care for one another and of course have a love for each other that they hope will only continue to grow. Onrepparttar 101865 other hand, a long distance relationship does have its differences as well. It takes away your ability to see each other on a frequent note, as well asrepparttar 101866 choice of being intimate whenever you desire, not to mention that there would be major trust required. Being unable to spend time together in a physical presence makes it harder to hang on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.

The first step is to make an agreement of what your expectations are inrepparttar 101867 relationship and how much of a commitment you are willing to give and receive. Ifrepparttar 101868 two of you decide to be monogamous, then it is clear that neither of you will be dating anyone else as long as your romantic relationship exists. Being clear about what you both want is extremely important, especially in a long distance relationship, in order to prevent future misunderstandings and mistakes. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, you deserverepparttar 101869 chance to speak from your heart and he or she deserves to knowrepparttar 101870 truth and judge whether they can give it to you.

Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty,repparttar 101871 relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By acceptingrepparttar 101872 challenge of a long distance relationship, you also acceptedrepparttar 101873 fact that you will have to haverepparttar 101874 trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those three will helprepparttar 101875 relationship survive successfully.

Keeping each other informed ofrepparttar 101876 friendships you have with other people andrepparttar 101877 events that take place in your personal life is a great way to keep your relationship alive and healthy; and continues to make your partner a part of your life. It is essential that you receiverepparttar 101878 same information from your partner as well, so you both feelrepparttar 101879 same security and satisfaction that you both crave. Be creative withrepparttar 101880 way you keep in touch, such as calling, e-mailing, faxing and sending cards. Pay attention to how many times a week you are staying in touch as well. If you want your bond to stay strong and loving, you have to hear from one another often, leaving as little room for any of you to start getting paranoid about anything. Although you cannot be romantic towards each other on a physical note, you can still perform romantic acts that will keeprepparttar 101881 romance department happy. You can do this by sending love letters and poems, having flowers and gifts delivered, or even sending a video of yourself with a loving message. Reminding your partner of how much you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss you more withrepparttar 101882 constant urge to see you.

Two secrets to getting more done in less time

Written by Angela Booth

(c) Copyright Angela Booth 2002

You're completely bogged down with work. This week you must complete three client proposals, and two of your staff are out sick. You feel you have a better chance of sprouting wings and flying than getting those proposals done. From experience, you know that each proposal will take around four hours to do. However, you just don't have those 12 hours to spare. You decide that you will have to call your clients, tell them that you're overwhelmed, and assure them that you will deliverrepparttar proposals next week.

What can you do when you've got way more work than you can get done? Whetherrepparttar 101860 reason you're overloaded is that you're a procrastinator or someone who takes on more work than she can handle, these two techniques will work for you.

Double your output and get your work done in halfrepparttar 101861 time

What if you could complete each proposal in two hours? Can't be done? What if someone were to offer you a $1,000 bonus if you completed each proposal in two hours, could you do it? What if they offered you $10,000? Without any doubt, if someone offered you $10,000 to complete those proposals, you'd do it. Our work always expands to fitrepparttar 101862 time we allot to it. You can get your work done in halfrepparttar 101863 time. The key is to have confidence in yourself. You needrepparttar 101864 initial confidence to at least try it and to believe that you can do it.

There are a couple of tricks you can use. The first trick is to focus all your energies. You do this by relaxing, yet also becoming alert atrepparttar 101865 same time. It sounds paradoxical, but it's a meditative process, and it only takes a couple of minutes.

Tryrepparttar 101866 exercise below, just once, immediately before you start work on something that requires concentration. You'll be amazed at how much more work you get done. The exercise is drawn from Chi Kung, a Chinese meditative exercise form which is used in martial arts.

Readrepparttar 101867 exercise through a couple of times to get a sense of it.

The focusing exercise (two minutes)- should be done where you can see a clock, immediately before starting work on a task which requires concentration.

The first couple of times you do this exercise, you may spend halfrepparttar 101868 allotted time getting your posture right. With practise, you can get into position within a few seconds, and focus on relaxing.

Stand up straight with your feet shoulder-width apart. Relax your knees; don't lock them. Hold your head up, and imagine there's a string fastened torepparttar 101869 crown of your head, which is pulling your head up. You should feel slightly taller. Relax your shoulders. Keep your eyes open, but lower your gaze, so you're looking slightly downward.

Put your right hand across your navel, with your fingers spread. Your right thumb should form a straight line across your navel. Put your left hand acrossrepparttar 101870 fingers of your right hand, also with fingers spread. Relax both hands.

Relax your forehead,repparttar 101871 corners of your eyes, and your jaw.

You're now standing straight and tall, but relaxed. Put your attention in your body, directly behind your navel, and breathe in and out from there. Feel as if your abdomen is gently expanding as you breathe in, and relaxing as you exhale.

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