----------------------------------------- Subtitle - Troll Detection Made Easy ---------------------------------------- Due to their overwhelming lack of social skills, gay man’s 'trolls' aren’t that hard to detect if you know what to look for.
The majority of them are usually oblivious to anyone or anything but themselves, and thus behave in a way that makes you shudder with embarrassment.
A classic example is someone who sends you naked pictures of themselves without asking, or giving any indication that’s what they’re going to do, first.
Another example is someone who bugs you for your personal contact details even after you have already declined.
There are literally millions of gay men and women online daters out there - you can easily afford to be picky.
If you have a bad feeling about someone, trust it!
However, be aware that there are some other, more malevolent trolls, who will try to bait you and lure you in to talking with them or meeting them.
So how can you tell if they’re a troll?
When I first began using online dating I had no idea, I was completely naive.
Resultingly, I fell victim to a troll on more than one occasion – thankfully I have never been physically bashed but:
•I’ve been homo-bashed in a chat room by an obvious gay-person hater. In fact, I think it was a 2 or 3 of them having a good laugh.
•I’ve gone on dates with troll’s, more than once. Shortly after we met it became very obvious they were nothing like they described.
•I had to change my phone number because I foolishly gave it out to a desperate troll who wouldn’t take 'no' for an answer.
I’m not trying to showcase my stupidity! I am just giving reasons why I had to, out of necessity, develop some kind of early detection system.
After a lot of trial-and-error, for both myself and my clients, I developed a check-list of yellow-flags'. Here are atwo of them:
1.Move-Out Ya Bum!
If you get any hints that they still live with their mom and dad, that’s a sign of a troll.
If they are young then it’s probably OK, but most gay online daters are mid-20’s and upwards.
From my experience, a grown gay man or woman still living at home is cause for concern.
If a relationship did start, you would have to always use your place. Additionally, you have to wonder if his or her parents even know your date is gay.
If they don’t, visiting would be like being 14 all over again….imagine – you visit, date introduces you as a friend and then tells his/her mother you are going up to bedroom..