Success at Work : Techniques : A Cluttered DeskWritten by Stephen Bucaro
---------------------------------------------------------- Permission is granted for below article to forward, reprint, distribute, use for ezine, newsletter, website, offer as free bonus or part of a product for sale as long as no changes are made and byline, copyright, and resource box below is included. ----------------------------------------------------------Success at Work : Techniques : A Cluttered Desk By Stephen Bucaro I followed my boss to a co-worker's cubicle where my boss requested a certain document from co-worker. The actual surface of co-workers desk was not visible because it was covered with a cluttered pile of papers, catalogs, booklets, and other paraphernalia. I was prepared to see my co-worker embarass himself by not being able to locate requested document in that messy pile. Some people mistakenly think having a cluttered desk will trick their boss into thinking they are keeping busy. Instead, a cluttered desk makes your boss think following: - You are disorganized - You are a procastinator - you have poor time management skills - you have low productivity - You have lost control My co-worker pushed his hand down into that cluttered mess and, to my amazement, instantly produced requested document. Apparently this guy had a mental map of location of every item in seemly disorganized pile on his desk. Maybe we misjudge people that keep a cluttered desk. People think that a worker with a messy desk does messy work. Misjudgment or not, if you have a messy desk, your boss might not want to risk giving you an important assignment. You will get only low profile, boring grunt jobs. Fair or not, that's way it is. Things that clutter a desk: - Pictures of family, pets, etc. - Trinkets, plants, figurines, signs - Food, cups, bowls, silverware, wrappers, crumbs I'm not saying that you can't have any personal items on your desk. Displaying a family photograph gives impression of a stable, reliable individual, but too many photograph's on your desk sends message that you would rather be somewhere else. A plant on your desk can make your cubicle seem less harsh, but too many plants makes people think that your hobby is taking over your cubicle. Yes, it requires a little extra time and work up front to get organized, but in long run, you'll make up that time. After you get organized, you'll work less to be more productive, and your work will much less stressful. One way to keep your desk neat is to block off 30 minutes each morning to organize your desk. Divide things into three categories:
| | Framing and Reframing Your Successes and FailuresWritten by Oz Merchant, C.Ht., NLP Trainer & Coach
I don't get around to watching too much television. But other night a movie called Deuce Bigelow, Male Gigolo was on. Now I know that some of you who may have never heard of this movie may have some interesting pictures running through your minds. But it is actually just a comedy film, and a surprisingly good one at that. He is basically a gigolo for under privileged. His clientele include an 8-foot giant woman, to a woman with narcolepsy, and another woman with turrets. But instead of having sex with any of these women, he teaches them how to appreciate their differences and feel better about themselves.The one scene that really stands out in my mind is lady with Tourette's Syndrome (when someone will shout out obscene expletives). She admits to him that she can't go around churches, or elderly, or around schools, and she is basically limited to her home. So what does Deuce do? A brilliant context reframe. I'll explain what this is in a minute. He comes up with idea to take her to a baseball game. And when her turrets kicks in, she begins to get crowd worked up, and they all start shouting with her. It really was brilliantly simple. So what is framing and reframing? We constantly put frames around things we do and things we believe. Consider how you view your previous successes and failures. What kind of frame did you put around it? Was it a useful one? I remember talking to my wife about learning to drive, and it was interesting to hear her say that when she was first learning, her frame was "I'll never get this!" Whereas mine was, "Oh this is a cinch!" Two completely different frames and as a result two different behaviors occurred. It took her quite a bit longer to drive a car. As we talked some more, I realized that there were differences in our mistakes as well. When she made a mistake, she would say, "Oh great I did it again!" Whereas I would say, "Oh I need to remember to do that (the right way) next time!" And I usually did. Reframing is changing frames that have already been created. Now some of you maybe thinking, well isn't that kind of like lying. Well you have to realize that your initial perception was not really "truth" to begin with. It was just how you framed it at time. If it wasn't useful, then change it now. When I first learned about reframing, I utilized it to help her with her original frame she had about her driving ability. Now notice this often happens. She went from framing her experience of driving to her ability of driving. Now she had a less than useful frame of her driving ability. It had gotten to a point where this frame was making her accident prone. She would always avoid interstate too. So I took her to an empty parking lot one evening and in thirty minutes taught her to drive my manual shift car. And as she began developing new beliefs about her driving abilities and while having a positive driving experience, I looked over at her as she came to a stop and all I said was "How much easier will driving your car feel?" She looked back at me, smiling, and said, "Yeah!" That is all it took. She reframed all her previous perceptions of her skills and abilities about driving and made them more useful.
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