Stuttering treatments

Written by Stephen Hill


For people who have fluent speech, it is hard to imagine what it must be like for people who stutter.

Going through life with a speech impediment is quite difficult, and at timesrepparttar stutterer would appreciate a little more compasion.

After overcoming a stutter myself, I asked some of my friends, how they thought life was like, having a severe stutter. I had quite a few different responses, some of which annoyed me.

Jim said: "I always thought that you felt a bit sorry for yourself and you made out that your stutter was some huge disasterous problem. It's not like you couldn't talk at all, is it? I also felt at times that you lacked courage, for example always asking Tony to order your drinks for you."

Paul then gave his opinion: "I found it quite funny that at times you would be talking really well, but within a few minutes you couldn't get a word out."

Ashley joined in: "I felt a bit sorry for you, seeing you struggle, was quite painful to watch."- This was a better comment!

Nigel, another friend: "I am glad that I don't stutter, but what I think you needed to understand was that you were notrepparttar 149158 only one with issues and problems. I am extremely impressed that you have managed to overcome it though."

Relationships: Giving to Get

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long asrepparttar author resource box atrepparttar 149032 end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.

Title: Relationships: Giving to Get Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 724 Category: Relationships

Relationships: Giving to Get By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Are you giving love to your partner forrepparttar 149033 joy of giving, or are you giving to get love?

I receivedrepparttar 149034 following email on this topic, asking for my help:

“Hi, my name is Adam. I am living with my parents and I’m thinking of moving out with my girlfriend Patty. But there are some things that make me feel upset, and I don’t really know what to do. I love her but she doesn’t seem to berepparttar 149035 person she was. At times she feels bad and upset. These periods last for about 4 - 5 days. During these times she seems more distant and our sex life just stops. This makes me frustrated because forrepparttar 149036 past year I have been working so hard to try and make her feel better when she feels bad. I thought that it was working but now it seems nothing I do works. I missrepparttar 149037 old times because she kissed me randomly all day and it made me feel so loved and wanted. She would hold me, and tell me great things. It was like a fantasy. Now, I’m lucky if she kisses me at least once in about 3 hours. I actually start all ofrepparttar 149038 kissing. I start all ofrepparttar 149039 holding. It feels like I have to start everything.

Mainly at times it feels like she just wants me as a friend. She doesn’t make me feel loved or wanted. My feelings about this come and go mainly aroundrepparttar 149040 times when she feels bad. But these feelings also come around sometimes when she is not feeling bad.

I just don’t have a clue what to do, and I need some help.”

Adam is giving to get. He wants control over getting Patty to validate his worth and fill him up. He is fine as long as Patty is having sex with him and kissing him a lot and making him feel “loved and wanted.” But, because Adam is not doing anything to make himself feel loved and wanted, he is addicted to Patty doing this. He is not giving his love to Patty from a full place inside, a place inside filled with love. Instead, he is empty inside and hopes that if he “works hard” and is nice to Patty, he can have control over getting her to fill his empty hole. As a result, Patty feels pulled on to take responsibility for Adam’s wellbeing, and becomes upset and distant inrepparttar 149041 face ofrepparttar 149042 pull. She is getting turned off to Adam and just wants him as a friend because his neediness is not attractive to her. When sex is a way for Adam to get validated - rather than an expression of his love - Patty will feel used rather than loved. when they have sex.

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