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Word Count: 461 Character Width: 60 Resource Box: Rhiannon Hill at www.BookShaker.com
- by Rhiannon Hill
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Oscar Wilde said he always passed on advice because it was of no use whatsoever to him!
He was a wise man. But we're all wise, aren't we? So why not give advice?
Simple: People usually do know what they're supposed to do in any given situation, yet for one reason or another, they're not doing it!
It is frustrating to look at someone else's dilemma and watch them fail to take what seem obvious remedies.
Remember, everyone is unique, with complex conscious and unconscious motivations. There are many factors to which advisor is not privy.
We usually just want confirmation of a decision already made. Many of us don't trust ourselves enough to make decisions. Psychologists say we often make a decision within a few seconds, but feel need to go through some checking process.
Pressure on someone to change their decision may work, especially if they are unconfident. But your preferred course of action may not suit them for hundreds of different reasons. They are NOT you and you are NOT in their shoes. It can even lead to disaster.
Feelgood satisfaction for advisor is not a healthy motivation. It's unethical to give inappropriate advice to make yourself feel powerful or needed.