Stress Management

Written by Kim Olver

Have you ever saidrepparttar words, "This job/my life is so stressful!" Or something else along those lines?

Most people believe that stress is something that happens in their lives. They believe it isrepparttar 140078 result of outside circumstances beyond their control. We are stressed if our work is too difficult. We get stressed when people in our lives arenít doing what we want them to do. We are stressed when itís been too long since a vacation. We get stress over deaths, weddings, major purchases and a host of other things. We talk as if stress is something outside ourselves---a condition of things in our external environment. It's not.

Health professionals will tell us that stress is a contributing factor in many physical ailments---heart attacks, asthma, high blood pressure, stroke and many others. There are several diagnoses inrepparttar 140079 Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV,repparttar 140080 diagnostic tool of therapists and psychiatrists that describe many stress-related disorders. Stress is a killer.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to handle stress better than others do? One individual may have allrepparttar 140081 life circumstances purported to cause stress in oneís life but seem to be just breezing through his or her day, seemingly without a care, while another person gets a flat tire onrepparttar 140082 way to work and has a total melt down. How can this be explained?

I intend to look at stress from a different perspective---a choice theory perspective.

According to Choice Theory, all behavior is purposeful. This means that no matter what we do it is a purposeful attempt to get something we want. We are never simply responding to outside stimuli.

You may ask, ďWhat about when I flinch when I hear a loud noise?Ē The flinching is not a response torepparttar 140083 noise, but rather your proactive way of staying safe. This may seem like Iím splitting hairs, but it is an important distinction to understand in this discussion of stress.

Let me give you another example. You may think you get mad at your child for not cleaning his or her room after you asked several times. It sure feels as ifrepparttar 140084 anger is in direct response to your childís behavior. However, your anger is actually your best attempt to get your child to do what you want. By displaying angry behavior, it is your belief that your child will go ahead and clean up his or her room. Any behavior or emotion we employ is a proactive, sometimes conscious sometimes not, attempt to get something we want, not a response to external stimuli.

The same is true for stress. We are choosing stress as a proactive attempt to get something we want. This choice is almost never conscious, but I want it to become conscious for you. Once it is conscious, then you haverepparttar 140085 power to choose to do it differently if you so desire.

Since all behavior is purposeful, it helps to understand what possible benefits or purposes one could achieve by stressing. Who would ever choose that behavior for any benefit?

What is the big deal about goal setting anyways?

Written by Kenia Morales

Goal setting related content is everywhere and yet, so may fail to create their lifeís master plan. It maybe because they do not want to spend time planning their objective, their life purpose is not too clear, does not believe goal setting is necessary etc.

If you belong torepparttar group of people that I mentioned above my advice to you is: whateverrepparttar 140020 reason is for not planning your personal path really does not matter. However, you should start reaching for paper and pen right about now. For what you may ask? If you ever want to get somewhere, you need to start setting goals immediately.

Not having a clear path to follow is just like driving a car without a final destination. You will probably end up inrepparttar 140021 middle of nowhere. However, imagine driving with a particular address in mind. You will end exactly where you intended to.

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