The holiday season can either be exiting and joyous, or saddening and lonely. How you experience holidays is completely up to you. Really! Whether you feel sad or happy, lonely or connected is completely up to you.
Your thoughts, your activities, and kind of situations you put yourself into generate your feelings. In other words, you do not have to experience sad or unhappy holiday feelings unless you want to. If you want to change how you feel, simply change what you are doing, and this will change your feelings.
What makes you feel sadder during holidays? What makes you feel more disconnected, out of touch with spirit of holidays?
Right now make a quick list of activities, or lack thereof, that may make you sad or unhappy about holidays. Do something different about two of these right now.
Here are some more attitude-altering activities to help you stay in (or get into) holiday spirit:
* Doesn't feel like holidays at your house? Put up lights! Decorate in holiday motif. Play holiday music and light candles.
* Don't have plans for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, etc.? Volunteer! Helping those in need can do wonders for your attitude. Or call up some friends and plan a small get together.
* Aren't looking forward to seeing family? Take interest in each of your relatives as you speak to them, in a much deeper way than ever before. You may enjoy them for a change.
* Exhausted from cooking and running around? Take an hour, half-hour or even 15 minutes all to yourself. Don't do chores, errands, clean up, etc. Don't do anything you have to do, even if you feel guilty. Do whatever YOU like.