Starting a car is easy. Put key in, turn it, and car starts. Would it not be great if starting a conversation was this easy? It can be--if you know how!

Unfortunately, many people don't know how. They struggle with starting conversations. If they do break silence, conversation sputters and dies.

This leads to boring parties, embarrassing silences, lack of friends and social skills. Not being able to easily start a conversation hinders business success and enjoyment in life. Do you know what I am talking about?

Starting a conversation can be as easy as starting a car. The reason you can quickly start a car is because you know two steps:

Step 1: Put key in ignition Step 2: Turn key

These two steps work every time with virtually any car. So also there is a 2-step method for starting conversations. It will enable you to start conversation anywhere, anytime, with virtually anyone.

Here is 2-step method for starting conversation:

Step 1: Break silence Step 2: Ask a good question

Simple is it not? Don't let simplicity of 2-step method fool you. It works! I have used 2-step method with total strangers, friends, businessman, and even shy people with great success. Let me explain more.

1. Break silence

I CREATE MY OWN REALITY.

I firmly believe that I have created every item, person and situation in my life. Even ones that seem way outside of my ability to create. Even ones I don't like. I believe that we make a choice before we enter this life to experience particular emotions and we, unconsciously for most part, find things, people and situations that will allow us to feel those emotions. This is a very powerful concept. For one thing, it immediately makes us stop being victims. By accepting responsibility for everything present in my life today, I claim power to create everything in my life tomorrow.

Every experience in life is an opportunity to learn. The trick is to ask, as quickly as possible, 'what have I learned from this? Who am I today that I wouldn't be if this didn't happen?'. Sometimes it's about learning how to take care of ourselves. Sometimes it's just about experiencing a feeling or emotion that we hadn't felt before. The important thing is to learn lesson, so that negative experience doesn't need to be repeated.

IT ONLY HAS TO BE HARD IF I WANT IT TO BE HARD.

I don't believe expression 'No pain, no gain'. I do believe that when there is pain, there is always gain. But it only has to be hard if I want or need it to be hard. And why would I want or need it to be hard? Because even though my logical mind understands and buys into concept that it can be easy and effortless (whatever it is), since birth I have been barraged with messages that say you have to work hard to get what you want, life isn't about being easy, et cetera. These are deep in my subconscious and that's where process always starts. Even word 'process', which I used for many years to mean facing life's lessons head on, took on meaning of 'painful work'. Today, when I catch myself struggling, I create affirmations that include words 'easily' and 'effortlessly'. This is a choice that I am consciously making in my life and language I use can either support or contradict it.

IT'S 11:30. IF I COULD BE ASLEEP, I WOULD BE ASLEEP.