You can try this brief experiment to see how your body and mind reacts to some changes... Right now, pretend you are angry for a moment- feel tension in your forehead, wrinkles starting to form as you frown and all that... also, lean forward right now in your chair and clench your fists. Hold this and let yourself think an unpleasant thought. But now, let's change something- force your mouth muscles into a big smile and hold it there, smile! Now lean back in your chair. Hold this reclined position. Also, loosen up your hands again and keep a gentle smile... So, how are you feeling now?

Most people report feeling they are unable to continue feeling angry and that they become relaxed. Yet all they changed were positions of their own body muscles! Did you realize that there are certain things our bodies become conditioned to with repeated exposure? For instance, when we recline in a chair, our brains interpret this posture as, "ah, I am relaxed." So, simple physical posture changes can trigger automatic changes in a person's thoughts and feelings.

When starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for future. Then, down road, comes exclamation ‘If I had only known...’. As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few men in field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to very start of relationship.

Here are some ‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.

1)He makes decisions about where to go with little or no input from you.

2)He belittles your opinion when two of you are alone and may call you names.

3)He makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others and may talk about you as if you were not there.

4)He may be rough during love-making and make you engage in acts you do not like.

5)He does not want to spend time with your friends or family and insists you socialize with his people.