"Fortune befriends bold." - John Dryden
I regularly work with clients on making major life changes in line with a new definition of personal success. There are many methods we use in this process: identifying values, removing distractions, getting in touch with their inner wisdom, creating a powerful vision, knowing their energy limits, etc. However, one of most important methods is often overlooked -- getting what they need by asking for help when they need it.
Taking time to seek help can be a real boost to your productivity when going through change. It is very easy to waste a lot of time going in circles trying to re-invent wheel without even realizing we are doing it. At first, it can feel more efficient to do things by ourselves. But when situation is too big for us, this approach can eat up a huge chunk of our time. Quick and easy sources of help are sometimes just a phone call away or a simple email to a trusted source.
Isn't it funny, though, how asking for help is often our last resort? It usually occurs at end of problem solving process -- when we are frustrated and feel as if we have hit a dead end. Instead, I would suggest starting any challenge by asking, "do I need help with this?"
Many of us are so used to being helpers to others that thought doesn't occur to us to reverse roles and seek help for ourselves.
Why not consider all of available resources?
Some people avoid asking for help because they don't want to "bother" others. If this sounds like you, do you remember last time someone asked you for help? Were you bothered? Probably not. In fact, you might have even been flattered and happy to contribute. Helping others feels good! Why not give others chance to feel good about contributing to you?