Should I Spy? - Spying on Your Cheating Spouse is NOT Revenge

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Do not use what you find on your cheating spouse as ammunition for revenge. Sure, you may have wonderfully violent fantasies of what you would really like to do to him/her andrepparttar other person. This is very normal. But, donít act them out.

Using what you find to extract revenge will only lengthenrepparttar 122018 time of pain and anger. It will undermine your integrity as a person, lower your personal standards and make you exceedingly unattractive.

Resistrepparttar 122019 temptation to slingrepparttar 122020 mud!

Keep what you find to yourself.

The obvious signs of a cheating spouse disturbed you. You spy becauserepparttar 122021 truth will set YOU free. The quickest cleanest way to break free fromrepparttar 122022 extramarital affair is to set your focus on you as you navigate your way throughrepparttar 122023 difficult weeks and months.

Should I Spy? - 3 Legitimate Motives for Spying on Your Cheating Spouse

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? You believe you see signs of a cheating spouse.The need to know whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons whyrepparttar drive to spy is powerful. Here are three:

1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questionedrepparttar 122017 change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and it was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, Hey, this doesn't fit! I don't believe it!

To deny this part of you, which KNOWSrepparttar 122018 truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil.

Ifrepparttar 122019 truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY!

Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your gut feelings.

2. Spying on cheating husbands or cheating wives often helpsrepparttar 122020 person feel connected torepparttar 122021 partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to this stranger who once was well known.

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