Should I Spy? - Is Spying on a Cheating Spouse an Invasion of Privacy?

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

My, howrepparttar cheating spouse cries foul when he/she discovers you are spying.

Outrage can be intense: “How dare you!! I never thought you would stoop to that! How could you!? How can there be trust in this relationship if you do that? This is none of your business; I don’t spy and go behind your back! Now you know why I want to pull away from you. How could I love anyone that would do something like that to me? On and on.

Cheating husbands and cheating wives usually will not admitrepparttar 122020 duplicity of their clandestine behavior. But you are made out to berepparttar 122021 villain if you use detective work to discoverrepparttar 122022 truth. It doesn’t make sense, but then again not much about infidelity borders close to sanity.

Are you a morally corrupt duplicitous character hell bent on destroyingrepparttar 122023 integrity of a relationship through spying? No, of course not. The integrity ofrepparttar 122024 relationship has been destroyed throughrepparttar 122025 extramarital affair. The affair shatteredrepparttar 122026 promises and mockedrepparttar 122027 vows thatrepparttar 122028 two of you made.

What is Normal Sexuality in Marriage?

Written by Maggie Vlazny, MSW

What Is Normal Sexuality in Marriage?

Everyone wonders about this. Do our friends "do it" more often than we do? Does anyone else have this problem in which one partner has high desire, andrepparttar other one has little to none? We must be really weird. Everyone wants sex, don't they?

The answer is no. Not really. More than 40 million Americans feel stuck in low-sex or no sex marriages. Research studies tell us that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 7 men reported little to no sexual desire. Sometime in a marriage more than 50% of couples experience one or both partners with little to no sexual desire.

Desire problems arerepparttar 122019 most frequent complaint of couples entering sex therapy. They are also oftenrepparttar 122020 unspoken complaint of couples entering relationship therapy.

In our sex saturated culture, this particular difficulty has a stigma, doesn't it? It's ok to admit to having a drug problem or mood disorder. But a sexual problem? No way! We're all supposed to be sexual superstars in our intimate relationships, aren't we?

Actually, sexual anxieties, inhibitions, and problems arerepparttar 122021 norm. We're afraid of not doing it "right", like in movies and books. "Right" would be intercourse, with both parties craving each other allrepparttar 122022 time and having simultaneous orgasms every time they're intimate.

Wrong! Healthy sexuality means giving and receiving touching that is pleasurable. It is not goal oriented, but process oriented. (The journey, notrepparttar 122023 destination.) It allows both partners to enjoy pleasure. It varies. Sometimes one or both has an orgasm. Sometimes not. And that's ok. What's not ok is not caring about yours or your partner's needs.

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