Spying can serve very specific purposes. The better you understand your reasons for spying on your cheating spouse, easier it will be to cope with infidelity.
Consider these reasons:
1. Cheating husbands or cheating wives often, unfortunately, lead to demise of marital relationships. If you strongly suspect this to be true for your situation you will want to protect yourself legally.
If there is betrayal, lying and deception regarding a third party, other forms of deception may exist financially or in other areas of relationship. Having “evidence” does have some impact in some court systems.
Whether you need to protect yourself legally depends on kind of affair facing you and character of your spouse. Please read through my “7 Reasons For an Affair” to determine situation that faces you. If your spouse is someone who can’t say no, doesn’t want to say no or is acting out rage, please make sure to take protective steps.
2. You may want to protect yourself medically if you suspect you have a cheating husband or wife. You might be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. Your health may be at stake. And, of course, you need to know.
Shame, guilt or self-absorption may be so powerful in your partner that it gets in way of responsibly informing you of medical dangers when another partner is sexually brought into your relationship.
3. Seeing signs of a cheating spouse often mean secrets. Secrets are work! There is not much written about impact of a secret in a relationship, but believe me, in over two decades of working with strained relationships day in and day out, keeping a secret has a powerful impact.