Should I Spy? - 3 Legitimate Motives for Spying on Your Cheating Spouse

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? You believe you see signs of a cheating spouse.The need to know whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons whyrepparttar drive to spy is powerful. Here are three:

1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questionedrepparttar 122017 change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and it was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, Hey, this doesn't fit! I don't believe it!

To deny this part of you, which KNOWSrepparttar 122018 truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil.

Ifrepparttar 122019 truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY!

Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your gut feelings.

2. Spying on cheating husbands or cheating wives often helpsrepparttar 122020 person feel connected torepparttar 122021 partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to this stranger who once was well known.

46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who might be interested. But please don't change anything.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know aboutrepparttar cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leavesrepparttar 122016 house inrepparttar 122017 morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns inrepparttar 122018 evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joinsrepparttar 122019 gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are onrepparttar 122020 pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls fromrepparttar 122021 caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insistsrepparttar 122022 child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful withrepparttar 122023 laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up onrepparttar 122024 pay stub.

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