Shattered Illusions

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

Man isrepparttar only animal that finds his own existence a problem he has to solve and from which he cannot escape. Inrepparttar 126320 same sense man isrepparttar 126321 only animal who knows he must die. Eric Fromm

The bombing of New York’s twin towers andrepparttar 126322 Pentagon in Washington, DC as well asrepparttar 126323 hijacking of four U.S. planes that resulted in thousands of murders has shattered our soul’s sense of safety. Never again will we be a nation secure inrepparttar 126324 illusion that as a country and as individuals, we are protected and sheltered. We are a people accustomed to viewing pyrotechnic towers as an every day event on bothrepparttar 126325 big and little screens. Few of us are prepared forrepparttar 126326 reality of burning towers forever flattened. New York’s crushed geographic landscape is a metaphor for an enemy’s attempt to destroy our country, our economy, our spirit and ourselves.

But, it will not work. Witnessrepparttar 126327 resolute and dignified way those ofrepparttar 126328 big apple continue their lives. A big bite has been taken, but with nary a New York raspberry heard,repparttar 126329 great city wends its way. So doesrepparttar 126330 less flamboyant Capital and so does our nation.

But, will we move forward unscathed? No! Never again will we get on a plane without our stomachs churning or our hearts skipping a beat. Few of us will enter a crowed building in a major city without wondering if we will emerge safely. We will continue to live as normally as we can, much asrepparttar 126331 English during World War II continued to plant their gardens’ while bombs were exploding about them. That is as it should be, for even under duress life must go on.

Sex With Your Ex

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

The death of a marriage must be mourned like any other lost relationship. It is often experienced as a death of family, of commitment, hope, or a dream. Dreams die-hard as there is nothing tangible about them and no place to putrepparttar “body.” When one is a widow or a widowerrepparttar 126319 entire world knows you have experienced a death and there are rituals to help you go throughrepparttar 126320 grieving process. When you get divorced, few who haven’t been there realizerepparttar 126321 suffering you go through and support is often brief or completely lacking. This is a time to reach out for help. Perhaps you should seek a divorce group, professional help, or spend time with really good friends?


You’ve gotten a divorce and you are sure you never want to see your ex spouse again. Sex was neverrepparttar 126322 real problem anyway, and certainly notrepparttar 126323 fundamental reason forrepparttar 126324 divorce. Then one night you get together and have dinner to talk aboutrepparttar 126325 kids. You’re feeling lonely and your mind goes blank unable to rememberrepparttar 126326 many bad times you had together. Now what was so awful about your ex anyway? Why did you get divorced? The next thing you know one thing leads to another and you’ve gone to bed together. Maybe this even happens more than once. You begin to wonder if there is anything wrong with this pull back torepparttar 126327 old and familiar. After all you have nothing else inrepparttar 126328 works right now anyway.

Going to bed with your ex is a lot more common than most people realize. A lot of divorcing partners have sex with their ex or soon to be ex at least once, usually, within a four to six month period after leaving when emotions are running up and down like a jumbo roller coaster ride. But,repparttar 126329 emotions involved with this kind of sexual encounter are quite different from those of a constant relationship belonging to a loving married couple.

Some individuals go to bed with their ex viewingrepparttar 126330 experience as “one last goodbye,” others as a way to convince themselves that what they thought always worked in their relationship really isn’trepparttar 126331 same anymore. And, still others see it as a safety net, satisfying their sexual need without having to maintainrepparttar 126332 total relationship.

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