Shatter!Written by Jan Tincher
You can use this technique for many bad habits, but today we will concentrate on bad habit of biting your fingernails. Ready? Make a picture in your mind of YOU biting your fingernails. NO, WAIT, change that! You know why? Because I don’t want you to *shatter* anyone, much less yourself, and that’s what we’re going to do. I want you to shatter FEELING, not person. So don’t put person, *you*, in picture. Your hands are OK, or any part of your body that you can see without looking at your reflection, just not YOU. OK, let’s start over. In your mind, make a picture of your nails as you are almost ready to bite them -- in fact, they are on their way to your mouth. Put everything in that picture that evokes bad feelings. Broken, brittle fingernails, people staring at them, maybe a picture of your hands trying to pick something up, but your fingernails aren’t even long enough to help. Pick out a picture of worst thing you can think of happening to you. When you see that picture, do you have thoughts of hopelessness, self-recrimination, etc.? Or are you thinking “I’ll never stop biting my fingernails.” “I wish I had willpower to stop.” “I’m so wishy-washy.” “I don’t have any self-control.” etc.? Now that you feel really terrible, put that picture on a piece of glass *in your mind,* because that’s what you’re going to shatter. And remember, if you use all of your senses -- you hear, feel, smell, taste, see everything that pertains to that picture that says you ALWAYS bite your fingernails, your brain will be drawn to it. And we want your brain drawn to it before we shatter it. OK, now. Look at picture on piece of glass until it evokes all those feelings mentioned above and you are REALLY feeling out of control -- you HAVE to bite that fingernail again, then . . . SHATTER it!
I Don't Want That To HappenWritten by Jan Tincher
The experts say that your unconscious doesn’t pay attention to negating factor, NOT in sentences like title of this article. Knowing that, do any of these following scenarios pertain to you and your thoughts?
Someone you know has fallen on some bad times, and their business goes under. Do you find yourself thinking, “Oh, I hope that doesn’t happen to me.”
An older person you know has fallen and broken her hip, and you see how much pain she’s in. Do you find yourself thinking, “Oh, I hope that doesn’t happen to me.”
You watch news and see that a person was high-jacked, that some people were injured in an earth quake, that someone was killed in a driveby shooting. “Oh, I hope that doesn’t happen to me.” Or even, “I’m glad that’s not me.”
Your unconscious doesn’t pay attention to negating factor, NOT. That being case, what are you continually saying to yourself, if you say above sentences? I’ll give you a hint. Take NOT out and see what you may have said to yourself more times than you can count. “Oh, I hope that does happen to me!”
*** Sidebar *** That may not be what you were *thinking,* but it IS what your unconscious mind was hearing. If you tell a two-year-old, “Don’t eat that cookie.” What is two-year-old hearing? “Eat that cookie!” If you say to yourself, “I’m not going to eat that second piece of cake” what are you hearing? “I’m going to eat that second piece of cake.” That is usually proven by fact that you DO eat that second piece of cake. *** End of Sidebar ***
Listen to experts. Change your life around. If you find yourself saying anything like above sentences, minute you realize you are about to say it, change it to “I am so happy I am safe.” Or, “I am so happy I am healthy.” If you feel you are being selfish saying that, in light of other people’s bad fortune, change it. How about “I am so happy I am healthy, and they (whoever you had read or heard about) are getting better and better.”