Sexually Addicted? 10 Important Questions to Ask

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

There are many things in our culture that grab us and won't let go. Sometimes sex is one of them. Perhaps that'srepparttar case for you or your spouse/partner.

Sexual addiction plays a prominent role inrepparttar 149586 "I Can't Say No" kind of extramarital affair I outline in my E-book, "Break Free Fromrepparttar 149587 Affair."

These questions are intended to help you be more aware of some behaviors that perhaps indicate that sex has a hold on you. If you answer yes to three or more questions it probably is wise to take a closer look atrepparttar 149588 place of sex in your life.

1) Do I have sex at inappropriate times, inappropriate places and/or withrepparttar 149589 wrong people?

2) Do I make promises to myself or rules for myself concerning my sexual behavior that I find I cannot follow?

3) Have I lost count ofrepparttar 149590 number of sexual partners I've had inrepparttar 149591 past 3 years?

4) Do I have sex regardless ofrepparttar 149592 consequences (e.g.repparttar 149593 threat of being caught,repparttar 149594 risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?

5) Do I feel uncomfortable about my masturbation,repparttar 149595 fantasies I engage in,repparttar 149596 props I use, and/orrepparttar 149597 places in which I do it?

Infidelity Discovered? 10 Ways to Calm Your Powerful Feelings

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

When you find out aboutrepparttar affair,repparttar 149585 first few hours, days and weeks can be emotionally wrenching to sayrepparttar 149586 least. Or, if someone you deeply care about begins "pulling away" you may also experience intense feelings. Read through this list and pick out a couple things you can do to help yourself during these times.

1. Walk. Run, if you are fit enough to run. Work out. Getrepparttar 149587 blood flowing. Physical exercise drains offrepparttar 149588 adrenaline and physically you feel better. You also think better of yourself because you are caring for you.

2. Talk. If you typically handle problems by talking them out, find someone who will listen as you pour out your heart. Give them explicit instructions: "I need to talk, vent, cry, rage, and question. Just look me inrepparttar 149589 eye, nod your head and listen."

3. Write. Get a kitchen timer. Set it for 5 minutes. Spend that time writing...anything, everything that comes to your mind. Don't censor. Whenrepparttar 149590 bell goes off say to yourself, "OK, there it is. Now I need to get on to other things. I will come back later and write more." Putrepparttar 149591 writing in a safe place or destroy it.

4. Find a safe place and spend some time there. Do you have a favorite lake, wooded area, park, room, chair where you feel safe and can "get away." Intentionally spend some time there.

5. Use good "self talk." Tell yourself, "You are ok. You will be ok. This too shall pass. What you are feeling is normal and will not destroy you." Develop that "observing part" that can speak to your turmoil.

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