Sexual addiction plays a prominent role in "I Can't Say No" kind of extramarital affair I outline in my E-book, "Break Free From Affair."

These questions are intended to help you be more aware of some behaviors that perhaps indicate that sex has a hold on you. If you answer yes to three or more questions it probably is wise to take a closer look at place of sex in your life.

1) Do I have sex at inappropriate times, inappropriate places and/or with wrong people?

2) Do I make promises to myself or rules for myself concerning my sexual behavior that I find I cannot follow?

3) Have I lost count of number of sexual partners I've had in past 3 years?

4) Do I have sex regardless of consequences (e.g. threat of being caught, risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?

1. Walk. Run, if you are fit enough to run. Work out. Get blood flowing. Physical exercise drains off adrenaline and physically you feel better. You also think better of yourself because you are caring for you.

2. Talk. If you typically handle problems by talking them out, find someone who will listen as you pour out your heart. Give them explicit instructions: "I need to talk, vent, cry, rage, and question. Just look me in eye, nod your head and listen."

3. Write. Get a kitchen timer. Set it for 5 minutes. Spend that time writing...anything, everything that comes to your mind. Don't censor. When bell goes off say to yourself, "OK, there it is. Now I need to get on to other things. I will come back later and write more." Put writing in a safe place or destroy it.

4. Find a safe place and spend some time there. Do you have a favorite lake, wooded area, park, room, chair where you feel safe and can "get away." Intentionally spend some time there.