Single moms, more so than anyone, have to be exceedingly careful about type of man they select as life-long partners. No sensible woman wants to be judged soley on her appearence or sex appeal, right? Moreoever, who would even want a man mostly interested in sex without a real commitment, right again? These questions create an age-old conundrum. Exactly, how does one find a guy who loves them and only wants what is best for them? Let's take it up a notch. How do you resist those natural impulses to throw caution to wind and break down and have sex?

For starters. . .

Read between lines.

A wise person once said, Words carry a little weight, but actions truly reveal entireity of a matter. When you meet a new guy, be especially observant of kinds of things he talks about. Carefully listen to his conversation. Remember, you can usually learn plenty about a person simply by listening to them. If conversation is laced with sexual innuendos, that is your "red flag".

Where’s fire...

Be leery of physical contact early in relationship. Someone who is overly "touchy" after knowing you for a short amount of time might have less than honorable motives. Yes, some guys are “touchy feely” with women. But think for a moment, if you marry a man who can't keep his hands to himself, you are asking for trouble!

Let get real, here. As single moms, it's only natural to enjoy attention of men, but don’t allow loneliness or insecurity to propel you into a relationship that may bring pain later. You are far too precious for that, single mom.

Take your time with physical stuff. Approach dating relationship same way you would with a platonic friend. Save kissing or hugging until you really know guy.

So many challenges await you. The terrifying journey from secure womb to cold, loud Earth will be softened by warm milk from my breast. And time will continue to prepare you.

We will rejoice at your first smile, your first step, your first word. A world of firsts for you, my precious one. Explore, discover and don’t forget to dream. Big dreams! Follow them and you will grow so tall. Where will they take you, my baby? Will you ride horses? Will you sing songs? Perhaps sea will beckon you, perhaps sky. Perhaps heavens! Wherever you go, little one; always remember your heart. Your dreams will be nothing without it.

The apple trees are laden with fruit, sweet and ripe. By time you arrive, they will be all gone. The orchard is steadfast, however. Each year it produces - we are never in want. Like it, your home will be steadfast and strong. You will feel safe here and secure. There will be storms, as there are in orchard but they will pass and sunshine of your family’s love will warm you once more. Time will take you by hand and continue to prepare you.