Since success is personal, defining what it means for you is first step to achieving it. Once you are clear about what success looks like for you, here are some important points to help you achieve it.

Steps to Success

1. Know your Potential: In order to succeed at anything you need to see that you have potential to reach your goals

2. Understand your Goal: List three or four reasons why you want to achieve this goal? What is result you want to obtain?

3. Set Realistic Goals & Timelines: Often times we want overnight success. Make sure your goals and time frame you have set are realistic.

4. Create a Plan: This is by far most important document of all. It allows you to keep track of everything involving your goal.

5. No Shortcuts: Shortcuts are sloppy and compromise your work and your integrity. “Anything worth doing is worth doing well.”

6. Have Courage: Depending on what success means to you, you will have to have courage to stand up for what you believe and desire to do, even if it means disappointing others.

7. Stay Motivated: It is critical to stay motivated when striving for big goal of success. Motivational tools will help you stay on track.

8. Be Passionate: Have passion for what you are doing and working toward. You will automatically put more effort into it.

9. No Excuses: If you want something badly enough, there is always a way!

10. No Fear: Fear of Failure is a normal emotion for everyone. How you get past fear determines whether you experience success.

Have you ever taken an action and wondered why? Each day we are faced with literally thousands of choices. Some occupy our thoughts on a conscious level, some do not. I thought about color of tie I would wear today, but I gave little thought to turn I made out of my driveway, I just took it. Each of these were choices. Have you ever wondered why you make choices you make?

After years of teaching golf, I discovered that many things that people do are done passively, without thought or planning. Tiger Woods does not think about how he grips club in a tournament, he does it by “feel”. Yet when he practices, he may take great care in adjusting his grip to optimum position each and every time he grips club. When driving a car in excess of two-hundred miles per hour, Dale Earnhardt Jr. doesn’t think about how he will move wheel, he does it naturally.

These are examples of learned responses, things that are done almost by second nature by performer and they are very similar to learned responses we all have in our lives. Each of us has things we do almost subconsciously, you may visit a drive through coffee virtually without thinking about it. Marketers know this and they prey on our habits, our learned responses. McDonalds and other fast food restaurants have spent billions of dollars to train us to effortlessly and thoughtlessly spend our money on a number four with a large diet coke.

Have you ever observed people at work and how they will instinctively reply to question “how are you today?“ Some will reply, great!, some, fair to middlin‘, and some I’m tired. How can someone be tired first thing in morning? Ok, perhaps a rough night every once in a while, but these folks are tired every day. To quote Earl Nightingale, “they are just reciting their lines.” Learned responses are a part of our every day life. “How are you today?” The response is same each and every day; “fine!” Rarely to we examine conditioned, learned responses we give and where they come from. More important is effect they have on our lives - learned responses we have dramatically effect our lives by providing us with our perceived reality.

What if we could alter perception of our reality? What if we had, literally and perceptively, no limits? What could we accomplish? What could we do? How happy could we possibly be?

In order to destroy our self imposed limits, we must examine their origin and validity of them. Each of our learned responses, our locked assumptions can be traced to one of Your Ten Relationships in Life.