by Ellen Zucker
Setting boundaries is necessary in any human relationship.
Whether you’re dealing with an overly demanding business client or a boyfriend with wandering hands, sometimes you just have to say “No!”
In fact, there are many parallels creating successful relationships with business clients and boyfriends.
For both, most problems can be avoided by laying down clear, straightforward boundaries.
In business arena setting boundaries is done by negotiations, written materials such as rate sheets and brochures, and most important, contracts.
Good relationships enjoy a certain amount of give-and-take and compromise. But when demands become unreasonable, it is time to say put your foot down.
That is because human relationships work best when they are conducted with mutual understanding and respect. Intelligent boundary setting goes a long way to set up a structure where mutual respect can flourish.
Good relationships are based on an even exchange. Generally, exchange is money for goods or services on part of you and your business client. For boy and girlfriends it will be a mutual emotional commitment.
A girl who gives her heart and soul to a boy who is looking for a ‘one-night stand’ is an example of someone who enters into an unequal exchange.
Is that situation really so different from a small business trying to break in with a large, high profile client who can pick and choose among many small vendors? It is not uncommon for some less than scrupulous large clients to seek out small hungry suppliers, give them orders large enough to monopolize their capacity, and demand all manner of concessions.
In both cases, small partner, like besotted young girl, wants partner too much.