First and foremost remember that this vacation is for YOU! You plan it and decide where you are going.

There are considerations you’ll want to include, such as: do you want to sightsee or do beach? Cruise or hike? Theme parks or camper park?

Secondly, and probably most importantly, know what to expect. Remember that care-giving responsibilities you have when you are at home won’t magically disappear when you go on vacation. There will still be standard “work” tasks of bathing, dressing, feeding, and running after children.

One thing to agree upon before leaving is split of duties between traveling partners so that there aren’t surprises once you are gone.

When you consider a split of duties don’t forget to include older children. Our 8-year-old loves helping with his younger sister and truth be told, not only does he not mind helping, it makes him feel needed and “older”.

Thirdly, plan for help during trip if you feel you may need it.

For some people spending 100% of their time with children is heaven sent. For others, a much-needed respite once or twice during a weeklong trip is just what doctor ordered for a refreshing holiday.

Investigate nanny services and interview them before traveling to area. Do you feel uncomfortable leaving children with a qualified stranger? Brainstorm with your travel companion about how to address this issue. Is there family available where you are traveling, or maybe family of friends?

Fourthly, understand that you may have to lose spontaneity, especially with younger children.

However, you’ll gain more from seeing your destination through eyes of your children.