Say I Don't KnowWritten by Steve Gillman
Why am I writing this? I don't know. I can give reasons, but I can't be sure they are accurate. Such ignorance is okay, or at least it should be. The temptation is always to explain, but that often does nothing useful. In fact, it can just get in way of actual understanding. Let me explain...Rationalization 101 John was hypnotised, and given post-hypnotic instruction to get up and put on his coat whenever doctor touched his nose. Once out of trance, they talked. During conversation, doctor scratched his nose, and John immediately stood up and put on his coat. The doctor asked him why. "Oh, I thought we were finished," John said, and he took off coat. A minute later, doctor touched his nose again. John again immediately stood up and put on his coat. "It's getting cold in here," he explained. This scenario is not unique to hypnosis. There's a lot that goes into our decisions and actions, and we act as though we're aware of it all. Just like poor John, we feel compelled to explain ourselves - and to believe our explanations. Rationalization is one of our strongest habits. I Don't Know A child throws a plate at his brother, and his mother demands "Why would you do that!?" He says, "I don't know," which is true, but not acceptable. Pychologists couldn't, in five seconds, understand child's action with certainty, but a six-year-old is expected to do just that.
| | Success Through Authenticity: Harness Your “Innie” Natural EdgeWritten by Sarah Dolliver
For any inner-directed individual, much of life feels like you are a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. By forcing them to fit together, natural edge of square-peg is shaved off. That natural edge includes all your best traits, such as your intuition, creativity and superb listening skills as well as many other characteristics that make you a joy to be with and know.What’s an “innie” (introvert or highly sensitive person) to do? Here is a 4-step self-generating cycle that preserves your natural edge: 1) Integrity: Where are your thoughts, actions or words at odds with your best self? How are you trying to adapt or adjust to fit into situations? Whose expectations are you trying to meet? Find what doesn’t fit for you, describe it well and write it down. 2) Awareness: What is this behavior costing you? How does it hold you back: in results? In connection with other people? In extra energy spent to live up to something? Find as many consequences as you can. Record them with your description. Now you can see issue completely right in front of you. It is easier to deal with once it is out of you and you can see it objectively. 3) Self-acceptance: Which one nugget about yourself could you accept that would make this situation disappear completely? It doesn’t have to be something huge. Just a morsel that links to prior two steps. What would it take to own that nugget inwardly at first and then outwardly and proudly? I guarantee that once you can see it and enjoy its truth for you, life gets a lot easier!
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