STOP ANY ARGUMENT In 3 Simple StepsWritten by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
STOP ANY ARGUMENT In 3 Simple Steps Copyright 2004 Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.Do you need to stop arguments? These three steps will turn almost any argument into a productive discussion in less than five minutes. 1. Go to bathroom. When you are in throes of an argument or difficult discussion, just say, "I really want to have this conversation, but first, please excuse me I must go to bathroom." Interrupting argument will give each of you a chance to cool down and collect your thoughts. If you are on telephone, say "Excuse me for a moment, I have to handle a call on other line." If you are on a cell phone, break connection in middle of one of your own sentences. Call back a few minutes later and apologize for being cut off. 2. Use your break time to think. Decide what you really want to accomplish by turning argument into a discussion. Get very clear about your own objectives.
| | 3-2-1 ContactWritten by Jennifer Lester
You only have one chance to make a first impression, so do it right! You have browsed a number of personals and have found some that spark your interest. Now is time to make your first contact. Start with a short e-mail. This is time to talk about them. After all, if they are interested, they will check personal profile you set up for yourself to find out all about you, so don’t make your first contact a laundry list of all your traits. Definitely remember to put your best foot forward! Begin by telling them what about their personal ad made you want to contact them. Be specific and descriptive. If it was something in their smile on photo, tell them how warm you think their smile is. If it is something funny in their words, let them know how hard you were laughing and how much you enjoyed it. Do not send out a form letter. You don’t want to contact each person exact same way. This shouldn’t be a numbers game. It should be about quality. When I had my personal ad posted I would get emails from men just simply stating “I think we would be hot together” or “check me out”, and that would be all they said. Why would I, or anyone else, waste their time responding to that when we have a great note from a person whom obviously paid attention to what we said and who we are. Would you? Keep in mind, if you wouldn’t respond to it, don’t write it to someone else.
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