Running in Panic Mode ... Slow down and focus to succeed!Written by Edward B. Toupin
Sometimes we all end up in a situation that seems out of control. All we appear to do is run in circles, fixing things, and holding on to anything that we can. We try to "keep our options open" at all times to ensure that we have a way out. But, as we trudge through muck and mire, we find that, although we're working hard, we're not moving forward.This is a common situation known as "panic mode." Panic mode occurs when you are not sure which way to turn so you create many different opportunities to provide a false sense of fulfillment. In fact, these opportunities are not opportunities at all, but are simply "placeholders" that provide a false hope that we are truly moving forward in our lives. --- How can I tell? --- When you find yourself feeling insecure and unable to focus on one particular item or beneficial task, you are running in panic mode. In panic mode, many people tend to not commit themselves to something specific out of fear that things will change around them and throw them back into pit. They spread their focus over many different things to try and ensure that they have something else to fall back on "in case" world collapses around them. Panic mode can be brought on by many different situations, but result is always same. It is a feeling of helplessness and insecurity accompanied by need to grab at anything that comes our way that might provide some level of fulfillment. Many times opportunities or solutions we reach for are only substitutes for true solutions. These solutions temporarily fill void, yet we eventually grow tired and begin searching for new solutions. Eventually, we are inundated with a series of mundane tasks that do nothing more than occupy our time so that we don't have to face true issue. Also, since our time is so filled, we are unable to truly commit to anything, which makes us feel even more insecure because we eventually realize that we're not moving forward, but are instead rolling around in a circle performing tasks for no true reason. --- How do I resolve this situation? --- Resolving this type of situation is not easy. The problem is that you have filled your life with a series of uncommitted situations that simply keep you busy. You feel like you're doing well, but your know that you're not moving toward any of your desires or goals in life. This can leave us so overwhelmed that we can't see what is truly going on around us.
| | Shatter!Written by Jan Tincher
You can use this technique for many bad habits, but today we will concentrate on bad habit of biting your fingernails. Ready? Make a picture in your mind of YOU biting your fingernails. NO, WAIT, change that! You know why? Because I don’t want you to *shatter* anyone, much less yourself, and that’s what we’re going to do. I want you to shatter FEELING, not person. So don’t put person, *you*, in picture. Your hands are OK, or any part of your body that you can see without looking at your reflection, just not YOU. OK, let’s start over. In your mind, make a picture of your nails as you are almost ready to bite them -- in fact, they are on their way to your mouth. Put everything in that picture that evokes bad feelings. Broken, brittle fingernails, people staring at them, maybe a picture of your hands trying to pick something up, but your fingernails aren’t even long enough to help. Pick out a picture of worst thing you can think of happening to you. When you see that picture, do you have thoughts of hopelessness, self-recrimination, etc.? Or are you thinking “I’ll never stop biting my fingernails.” “I wish I had willpower to stop.” “I’m so wishy-washy.” “I don’t have any self-control.” etc.? Now that you feel really terrible, put that picture on a piece of glass *in your mind,* because that’s what you’re going to shatter. And remember, if you use all of your senses -- you hear, feel, smell, taste, see everything that pertains to that picture that says you ALWAYS bite your fingernails, your brain will be drawn to it. And we want your brain drawn to it before we shatter it. OK, now. Look at picture on piece of glass until it evokes all those feelings mentioned above and you are REALLY feeling out of control -- you HAVE to bite that fingernail again, then . . . SHATTER it!
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