Romance: The Internal ProcessIf you grew up in
80s like I did, you might remember
group Depeche Mode and their hit "Just Can't Get Enough." It is a song about being obsessed with
idea of being with someone, about needing another person. Romance easily becomes this addiction when we believe that we are not complete without someone else and that we simply cannot get enough of
blissful feeling we get when we are with him or her. When we believe we need
romance to be complete, we are in trouble for we are perfect and complete, connected to
world at all times - we merely need to choose to acknowledge that we are.
In a very special way, romantic relationships are that journey back to love, back to
knowing that we are all part of a macrocosm called Life and that we can access
wonders of love, compassion, understanding, harmony, peace and more, simply by making such choices.
Physically, we're all made basically
same way, save for gender differences. But whether one is Madonna, Prince Charles, me, you or
waitress that served you lunch today, our bodies all operate in a similar manner. The way we behave and our ideas about things stems from psychological differences. Different ways in which we think cause us to make certain decisions.
We have
tendency to label our romantic partners as being special. There's a price to pay for special love if we are not careful. Telling a person that he or she is "special" projects
idea that
person possesses something you do not. This implies that you are not complete without them. Or in other words, that you need them. Everyone holds all
potential in
world within. Thus, our projection of being "half complete" is a false thought of guild, for innately we know we are connected to our source, but our Ego denies that truth.