So, how is it that we deal with these types of people to level perverbial playing field?

Well, for a moment, lets just consider problematic issues that these types of people have so as to better understand what approach to take.

In being manipulative, one would only need to look at why and what, not how, because how is obvious. How do they do it? They use words as their arsenal for control.

One should understand that manipulative people are generally control freaks who need to have people they attempt to control conform to their ideology. By leveraging control over a particular situation, they satisfy craving to fill that void of not having personal control, therefore obtaining it from another person.

It is quite obvious that always trying to tilt scales for yourself by being manipulative reflects a security problem in yourself. It’s simple! If you do not feel secure with yourself, than you are insecure. Ah...but to what degree you may ask, do you have to be so insecure that you always attempt to obtain control and security elsewhere?

Insecurities are in us all. We all feel vulnerable at times in any given situation, but what would propel us to be so insecure that we need to control others in our environment?

This question could be answered differently for almost every manipulative person because what drives us to manipulate might be extremely deep-seated in one, where in another it is seated quite shallow.

Most people have heard in one place or another; you can only control certain things in life, and much of other stuff you need to just let chips fall where they may.

If you are like me you have probably lost a lot of sleep over many problems that arise in your life. Sometimes, problem seems too huge. I become immobilized by fear. That leads to procrastination and guilt for my inactivity and Presto! My stress level goes through roof.

Just thinking of word "problem" is enough to raise my blood pressure. That is true power of words! What you put in your mind has an immediate effect on your metabolism. The mind and body are not opposites; they have always been inseparable parts of one amazing organism: You!

So, problems get in way of positive constructive action. Problems seem bigger than you. They can be ugly and mean and so distracting. You could pass up wonderful opportunities to enjoy yourself because you are too wrapped up in your troubles. You may be living a dark future that probably won't happen. The present moments slip by unnoticed and that's not a good thing!

It's time to stop having problems. It's time to slay Boogeyman under bed! How do I do that? Well, if you are willing to invest a little mental discipline, there is a very simple technique to follow.