Motivational: Rewriting The Story

Rewriting The Story

Written by Sibyl McLendon

For those of us who had significantly less than ideal childhoods, life can become a mire of “what-ifs”. What could I have accomplished if not for repparttar

abuse? What if it has been different, where would I be today? Life can become a circle of anger, helplessness, hopelessness, and repparttar 123780

feeling that we have been robbed of our potential.

There is a tool that can help us to discover who we could have been if not for repparttar 123781 destructive wasteland of our childhood.

The time may be right for you to take control of repparttar 123782 past. Of course, repparttar 123783 past is over, and essentially un-changeable. However, there is a way to take charge of repparttar 123784 present by re-writing your past.

Many years ago, I read a novel. I have no idea what repparttar 123785 name of this book is, nor do I remember repparttar 123786 author. However, there is a line from that book that stayed with me; I even wrote it down and kept it on my pantry door for years. One day, when repparttar 123787 time was right for me, I read that line and it was as if a sunny window was thrown open in my mind. Suddenly, I just GOT it! And now, I am passing that revelation on to you.

“It is easier to keep a bad story than it is to write a new one.”

We can re-write repparttar 123788 story of our lives! It is our story, after all. We can do anything that we want with it. The trick to this, if it can be called a “trick”, is that you must be open to repparttar 123789 possibilities! You have to believe that this can work. Skepticism is fine, but if you are not open to repparttar 123790 possibility that this can work, then it most surely will not.

Here is what you do:

If you can, find a photo of yourself as a child. The best one would be sometime when you were happy. If you can’t do this, however, that’s fine. Just pick an age for yourself to start from. Do your best to visualize yourself at that age.

Now, you begin to rewrite repparttar 123791 story of your life, on paper and as it were a book. Don’t expect to be able to do this in one sitting or even in one week. Be as creative as you possibly can, and take your time. You might want to give yourself a new name, and that is great. I can’t emphasize enough to you that this is your story! You can be anything and anyone that you choose.

"What Image Are You Projecting?"

Written by Gary Simpson

I want you to think about something for a few moments. Do you have any perception about what sort of image you are projecting? I’m talking about repparttar

personal or professional image that you are presenting to repparttar 123779

rest of

world.

When we perceive others we do it through four of our five senses:

Sight
Sound
Smell
Touch

The fifth sense, "taste", we will set aside because it is irrelevant to this subject. But we will include an intangible quality, a "sixth sense", so to speak, which we will identify as "something extra". What I refer to here is that vague notion we get about somebody which we are unable to quantify. It is an all-round subconscious combination of everything else that we perceive about repparttar 123781

person.

We have all felt it. We all project it. It’s repparttar 123782 thing we speak of when we say or think repparttar 123783 words:

"I feel as though I can trust this person" or
"I think I feel safe in this person's presence" or
"it seems as though I have known this person a long time" or
"I just don’t feel comfortable when he (or she) is around" or
"this person makes my skin crawl."

Call it gut feeling, animal instinct, intuition or whatever you want. We all possess it and we all project it. Some are more receptive at what comes in and others can mask what goes out. But there are signals.

So let's examine each of repparttar 123784 above attributes briefly to see what sort of "persona" or image you are projecting for others to "read".

1 – Sight. What do you see when you look in repparttar 123785 mirror? What do you look like? Not everybody has movie star looks or a perfect athlete’s body. However, we should all be making repparttar 123786 most of what we have got. There is simply no excuse for an unkempt appearance. Are you a man who only shaves every second or third day? If so, why? Are you a woman who has unruly hair?

It has been proven that people judge you mostly by what they see. If you make a poor initial visual presentation then you have to rely on everything else to work overtime to overcome it.

Consider this. Think about your lawyer, accountant, doctor or any other "professional" person. When you first met that person how did they present? Were they well groomed and in fine clothes? Almost certainly they were. Now, every time we see that person we judge them by that first presentation appearance. You may see your accountant one weekend down at repparttar 123787 hardware store in his or her grubbiest work clothes – but you still have that image of them in their professional attire.

Let’s reverse that. Let’s assume that you bump into that person in repparttar 123788 hardware store, you strike up a conversation, during which, they reveal to you that they are an accountant. But you see them in their filthy weekend work gear. Is it convincing? You decide to visit them at their usual place of work at a later date. Hey presto! Out comes this person looking very professional. Is your mind in conflict?

The point I am making is this – repparttar 123789 first impression is repparttar 123790 lasting impression. When you see somebody for repparttar 123791 first time and they are professionally attired, that is repparttar 123792 way you invariably categorise that person from that point on – even if a subsequent meeting shows them wearing lesser clothing. It just doesn’t work in reverse.

My point is – if you want to project a certain image – dress for that image. But that is not to say that you need to wear your best clothes all repparttar 123793 time when you are away from your work. The above example was just to illustrate my point.

2 – Sound. What words do you use? Do you speak appropriately and knowledgeably for your profession. Are you prone to "um" and "er" your way through conversations? Do you think before you speak?

Is your verbal language sprinkled or even littered with profanities or expletives? Gutter language is a sure way to lose customers and clients. So are sarcasm, racial prejudism, sexual connotation, rudeness, ignorance, criticism and a host of other poor language traits.

Do you revise and edit your written language in letters or emails before you send them – particularly when you are in conflict with a person or corporation? Do you screen your writing for blatant errors or possible misunderstandings? Being pleasant but firm creates a much better environment for resolution than a harsh and angry tone. Do you wait before you send your mail and revisit your words before posting? Do you put yourself in repparttar 123794 position of repparttar 123795 receiver of repparttar 123796 correspondence?

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