Everywhere we see speed of life increasing, almost daily it seems.

The age of instant gratification has done a number on our schedules. It started with business people wanting to provide better service by being more available for customer requests. Longer hours, faxes, pagers, cell phones, mobile computers, and more have become commonplace in push to be better than next guy.

Of course, everyone feels effects of this, as family members are no longer as available to our families as they are to their jobs. Now virtually everyone carries a cell phone in order to maintain contact with important people in their lives. One more thing that has to be taken care of right now.

And then there are expectations we have about our place within society. It looks like everyone else is succeeding except us. We have to keep up, buy new toys, wear 'better' clothes, drive a 'hot' car, and so on. We just wouldn't feel right not being a part of 'in crowd'. Take out a loan if you don't have cash. Put it on plastic and work harder.

But look at where that is taking us. Spending more money just creates need to work longer hours. Which in turn creates feeling of being more stressed and less capable of handling tasks that are before us.

There comes a time when you just have to realize that you can't do everything you want to do. There just isn't enough time to do all of it, so you have to choose. What do you let go of to make room in your day for rest?

Do you really have to give up something? Couldn't you just figure out a way to work 'smarter'?

Working smarter is great, but is based on one basic idea. You don't have to do everything. You only have to do more important tasks and let rest go. It's old 80-20 rule. 80% of results you want can be obtained with only 20% of effort. And last 20% of results you want will take 80% of effort.

Any emotion feeds on it's expression. The more you express an emotion, easier it becomes to express it more often. If you're having a problem with anger, that means that you've expressed it often enough to make it so easy to express again without really thinking about it. If you want to eliminate anger from your life, you have to stop feeding it (stop expressing it), and start expressing opposite emotions of love, acceptance, and joy instead.

I will assume that if you're reading this, you have some very strong motivations to help you stand by your committment to changing your mental/emotional focus.

The problem that a lot of people get into when trying to stop expressing an emotion is that they bottle it up inside where it festers and grows to point where it blows up explosively. There is a way to avoid this, so that you may release anger completely, allowing it to drain away from you and never come up again.

The proper way is to not bottle it up, but rather to refuse to acknowledge it's presence. When people bottle up an emotion, they still focus their mind upon emotion that they are resisting. In the Keys To Power Mastery System, we teach that any time you focus upon an emotion (or anything for that matter), you increase amount of Power that is working to create that emotion in future.