Resilience: An Emotional Intelligence Competency We Need TodayWritten by Susan Dunn, M.A.
We are focusing more now on emotional intelligence (EQ), as it becomes increasingly evident that it can be crucial factor in determining success and happiness in our careers and relationships. Once we have fundamentals in place--education, expertise, and skills--how we handle ourselves and others is what makes difference.
Resilience is an important EQ competency. It means being able to bounce back after setbacks, failures, disappointments and losses. It means not giving up, and continuing to face future with optimism and courage despite events. Because life will have its ups and downs, one of most important things we can do is learn how to bolster our resilience. We can do this by understanding competencies that make people resilient and then working with a coach to improve our skills in these areas.
Being resilient is going to be extremely important in future as pace of change continues to escalate.
People who are most resilient have these competencies:
It Ain't Over Til Its Begun Again!Written by Susan Dunn, M.A.
Do you know ancient symbol of orouborus--the snake with its its tail in its mouth, forming a circle? In one variation or another, it's present in many cultures. Jung would say it's part of collective unconscious. It's a symbol for beginnings that are endings, and endings that are beginnings. This is a concept that's difficult for us to grasp, and it's a very significant one.
It's common for all of us to mistake beginning for end. We wait 9 long months and then go into labor and our work is done, we think. The baby is finally here. But then, as every parent knows, work is just beginning. The birth is end of pregnancy, but beginning of a whole new thing. A baby!
We work hard for four years and get through college and what's end of it called? Commencement. (Beginning.) Why? Because reward for all that hard work is ... to get out there and find a job. More work at a whole new level.
I work with clients who want to identify and develop their strengths. We use an assessment tool and work interactively, and explore their propensities, and then voila! We discover and identify their talents. And then what? Talents need to be fortified with learning and skills in order to be brought to fruition. We have a new beginning.